1st time thumping pregnant hormonal mummy.

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my 15 month old got into a temper and hit me yesterday. i calmly put him down and explained that we dont hit mummy, and he cryed a bit then went and got me a toy to say sorry. i dont know if its me being hormonal at 22 wks preg but its realy upset me. my lovely loving ds is turning into someone else and im going to have to deal with a new baby and tantrums. hes only been challenging me the last week and i feel like im just too laid back to be hard line mummy.

Oh bless you. It must be so hard for you. Going from one child to two must be scary enough as it is, without this to worry about. Firstly though, I think his behaviour, although unacceptable is 'normal'. My friend's ds is 16 months and has just started throwing his weight around and slapping her. I know it doesn't make it easier but I'm sure it's just a phase. Sounds like you did a great job of explaining to him how it was wrong to hit you. He obviously knows he's done wrong and shown this by fetching you the toy (which is more thsn my friend's ds does!)

Maybe he is picking up on the fact that things are changing and that he will have a brother or sister. Even if not, he's probably just asserting his independance a bit and sadly that often means tantrums. I know it's the worst timing but you really sound like you can cope with it. It will pass. Also sounds like he's not changing into a different person, he's still the same loving ds- just growing up a bit. Keep doing what you're doing and reward good behaviour.

Good luck. Congratulations on the pregnancy. Do you know the sex?

oh bless you. i was just feeling realy sad at sitting here alone on a friday night being ignored by a computer.
hes also being v clingy at that moment so your probably right.
dont know what the sex is we think its their little secret. well my dh douse.

Aww, I wish nI hadn't found out the sex of ours really. If i have any more I think we will keep it a suprise!

I really think everything seems much worse when you are pregnant anyway so try not to think he hates you or anything! You are his world and therefore the only one he feels comfortable with unleashing his frustration on. I'd be upset too but he really will grow out of it.

I think you should be very proud that you managed to explain calmly what he'd done wrong (especially with the hormones and everything). He sounds such a cutie for fetching you the toy! He obviously knows he's done wrong and probably won't do it again. Don't feel bad if he does though, it's so normal for kids to push the boundaries and annoy the hell out of you. It's kind of their job He will learn.

Also normal for them to be clingy aswell, esoecially with the new baby coming. He's probably picking up on your hormones and emotions too so you are doing really well to stay calm and it's deffinitely the right approach (in my oppinion!)

Make sure you take care of yourself and make time to relax. Being pregnant is stressful enough without another toddler to look after so I think you're doing great.

Lots of hugs, you'll be fine!