This behaviour is too much for me

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DS is 3 and an only child. His behaviour is just too hard for me. I've read all the books including the book you wish your parents had read and he just ignores this more gentle approach.

Preschool tell me every day he's there that he's been pushing and hitting the other children. He snatches. Whenever I try to take him to the library or soft play, we won't go near other kids and shouts at me if I try to encourage him. He says no to me. He's on antibiotics right now and is refusing every time. I lost my tether just now, screamed at him and forced him to take it. He was sick on me. I don't know what else to do. I'm spending so much time trying to keep my nerve and be patient that I feel it's coming out in huge angry outbursts. I'm so scared that this is most damaging to him.

Anyone? Is it that I, or he, is exceptionally 'bad'? We just had his favourite fish and chips for tea which he said he didn't want when we got home with it. He wanted a film instead. Talked him round and he changed his mind several times as to what drink he wanted with his meal. He's still eating - he's just purposely dropping food on the floor. Isn't this stage meant to be at all enjoyable?

My son is 2.5 and the same 😞 hits other kids and just seems miserable. He's horrible to his sister at home and even the dog, it's too much 😩

That does sound a bit difficult.

What actions have Nursery put into place to try and help him?

My DD had some speech delay which she found frustrating. Do you think it might be worth doing this simple SLT progress checker just to see if that's at play with your DS?