4yo with transsexual tendancies

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We had friends over this morning which was all going fine until I realised my 4yo ds had gone very quiet upstairs. I went up to see what he was up to and found him dressed in my dd's clothes (nice skirt, top, knickers, tights etc). Actually a very well put together outfit!! This is the second time I have found him like this. He is very much a 'boy' but lacks male companions as he is the only boy in his age group at preschool. Is this normal?! Is it just curiosity? Any advice would be welcome.

I did laugh! Thank you - you're all fab. None of my other friends with boys ever mentioned it so I just thought it was something he did. He does put together an outfit beautifully. We have lots of dressing up stuff and he ignores the princessy ones in favour of the pirates etc although he does have a penchant for a purple cat suit .. and his sister's clothes.

I can always count on you lot to make me see sense!

I did laugh! Thank you - you're all fab. None of my other friends with boys ever mentioned it so I just thought it was something he did. He does put together an outfit beautifully. We have lots of dressing up stuff and he ignores the princessy ones in favour of the pirates etc although he does have a penchant for a purple cat suit .. and his sister's clothes.

I can always count on you lot to make me see sense!

my DS is 2 and is regularly seen out and about donning fairy wings, tiaras,wands and his sisters nickers....not to mention all the disney princess outfits.

Normal.

No different from girls dressing up as pirates and cowboys, other than less ammunition for teenage blackmail.

One of my favourite MN threads was about Spidermama's ds who wanted to wear a dress to school.
Children love to dress up, and they don't assign sexual significance to what they wear. They just want to look cool/tough/pretty whatever to fit in with whatever story they have running in their heads at that time. I think a negative reaction from a parent can do far more damage than the actual act of dressing up.
And i thought Spidermama's DS sounded really cool!

My DS is 20 months old and if you lay out 20 blue tops and 1 pink one he will wear the pink, he has pink PJs, he loves tiaras, anything dressy up, cat ear headbands ect!!

I just let him get on with it

I have read this thread with interest. DS (almost 7yrs) favourite colour until he started school was pink. Even had to buy him a pink shirt. He used to go to the park with his sisters fairy wings on etc.

DD2 (2.5 yrs), on the other hand, loves all boys stuff!!! She has BobTheBuilder on her bed. Hates skirts. Wont let me do anything with her hair. Plays with cars/trains/swords... Has a Spongebob scooter. She has a very girly sister (5yrs) who oozes girliness and with whom she shares a room but favours her brothers things and playing with him including football.

At first I was worried but I realised that I can't change what she likes or is attracted to, no more than someone could change me, so I let her get on with it.

Normal,

my ds 2.6 thinks it very funny to put on my high heels and hand bag and pretend to be me,he also takes his grandads walking stick and cap and pretends to be him it completly normal the only worry being he walks better in heels than mein my defence i wear them twice a year!

DS1 used to wear a tutu and wellies - unfortunately no photos for future blackmailing

It's a shame really. My DS is 4 and he would love to play with doll's houses and such like even though he's a v boyish boy. I hate how kids are told how to behave from such a young age.