9yo boy aggressive behaviour

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I have a 9 year old son, my biggest fear has always been that he'd turn out like his dad (we split because he was domestically abusive towards me) but we split when my son was a newborn and he never remembers us together.

I've always raised my son with respect and kindness for everyone especially women and there's no violence in our house, I've never laid a finger on him so it's not a learnt behaviour from home but recently since he turned 9 a couple of months ago his attitude towarda me has changed, he's rude, argumentative, back chats me about the smallest of things I'm finding it really hard not to lose my cool and shout, which I'm really not proud of and should do better.

however on a few occasions he's raised his fist at me, didn't actually hit me but looked at me like he hated me in that moment. Then just now I went to eat a chocolate bar and he said he wanted it so I snapped it in half and he gestured kicking me, again didn't actually kick me. Afterwards he's really remorseful and says sorry mummy, I don't know why I did it. I just don't know how to tackle this kind of thing.

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Hi OP

Really sorry about that. Its horrible and I don't know what to say but I'm sure others will be more helpful.

Now is the time to get him under control and I hope it happens soon with help of other FM's here