come and tell me if you have potty trained your 23 month ds yet please?

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I plan to wait til the summer but am wondering if everyone else has already got on with it. If so, how's it going?

er, no. HAdn't even occured to me, to be honest.

No waiting for summer too - my little blighter DD2 won't even speak yet so is still firmly a babby in my mind and therefore totally not ready for the joys of the potty.

Potty training - Ha!

Yesterday during morning nappy change

Wriggler: No nappy, finish nappy (screams and whinges)
Me: Oh, ok then, well it's either nappy or pants
Wriggler: Pants
(much discussion and choosing of particular pair)
Me: Are you going to use the potty then. Will you tell me when you want a wee or a poo?
Wriggler: Yes. Pants on. Pants on. (nodding enthusiastically)

1 hour later, dh informs me there's a puddle in the bedroom. 1/2 later I notice the sofa is practically swimming in wee. 1 hour later dd poos in pants.

Nappy wearing is resumed ...

No intention of trying again until she refuses her nappy.

oh good so pleased I'm not the only one waiting a bit. I suspect ds would wee everywhere too

omg would not even consider it yet. am sure he thinks potty is a hat i keep in the bathroom

let me share my nightmare experience

DD1 was 22 months, the nursery was telling me she was ready to be potty trained as she was asking to use the potty, showing an interest

2 months later it got a bit warmer so we had a go. Made a big fuss about "big girl pants, nappies are for babies" etc etc. More than 10 wees a day, constant dribbles, on the floor, for about 4 months. Suddenly she got it, was doing 4 or 5 big wees and holding it long enough to get to the potty or toilet. She just wasn't ready before.

DD2 is 2.5 and i am doing the lazy approach to potty training. If we are at home we have nappy free time and she uses the potty. If she's not in the mood or wants her nappy, fine. When we go on holiday this June i will go for it as she can already hold her wee long enough to ask for the potty and for me to get it. DD1 wasn't anywhere near this stage when we started.

Phew, what a marathon. Potty training DD1 was 4 months of torture. Don't do it to yourself! Wait until your LOs are very ready!!

dd is 23 months and definitely not ready
we have a potty, she knows what it is and what it's for but she's not capable of holding on at all...she even wees on the floor sometimes before bathtime when her nappy's off and she's about a foot away from the damned thing
she is so not ready

In almost 30yeasr of being a Mum, Grann, and Childcarer, have only known one boy out of nappies before 2, most are around the 3 mark. girls about a dozen by 2 most just after.

oh, and i should add choose a time when it suits you, you have time, are relaxed and can hang around the house. That is just as important as when your LOs are ready.

DD2 just started crawling when DD1 was potty training. splash splash, not a good combo.

I agree you should shoose a time to suit you, otherwise you will be more tense and dc will pick up on this and make it ten times harder. My friend is putting potty training off til summer so her ds can roam about in a t-shirt and pants and she doesn't have to faff about taking trousers off when her ds needs to go desperately! He is 23 months and it's no big deal. I really don't get how my parents supposidly had all three of us potty trained by the time we were 12 months. I'm starting to think my dad's memory must be going cos surely that's not possible?! I thought it was pointless even attemting it til 18 months.

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you have all backed up my thoughts on potty training, thank you, I feel much more confident about leaving it til the summer. My mum keeps dropping hints about him being "ready" but this seems to be based on him being able to say "poo" after he's done one and the fact that his nappies absolutely reek ( I was complaining the other day about the stink and got the comment "see he's ready for the toilet"). Definitely prefer the idea of him being able to wander in the garden and learn without peeing all over my carpet

My ds is 25 months and not ready! He was very proud about a week ago when he announced he was doing something! I brought the potty out and all week he has used it for putting cars in - I am leaving it until summer!

My DS2 is potty trained at 23mths! I am delighted as my DS1 wasn't really dry until he went to school. I thought trained meant they have to tell you when they need the toilet, but dry (trained) means you have to think of it. At first I was putting him on regularly about every hr and he did a wee or poo. I give him a choc button, which to our amusement he calls cock cock! Now, sometimes he tells me before he goes. He seems to be able to hold it until I put him on potty, about every 2hrs or so. Sometimes he happily goes on, sometimes I have to give a sticker or biscuit to get him on and if he really doesn't want to, I don't push it. As soon as nursery were in on it too, he knew we meant business and that worked also. I take a travel potty everywhere and use it in car parks, shopping centres on the school run. I consider this trained. I was so fraught when we trained my eldest at 2.5 yrs start, nothing worked, stickers, choc nothing. Then once trained he would dribble, too interested in playing to go. Being at school stopped that though. I say don't leave it too late. They get stubborn. Good luck.

Hi just joined both of mine were trained by 2, but all children develop at different stages. If you're serious do it! Don't do half nappies cos it's easier when you go out or cos nana's got them that day. Stick to it and make everone invoved with child to do the same. Lots of praise ,will take time but just persevere and youll get there don't back down.

i really disagree, i did this approach with DD1 and it was 4 months (at least) of absolute torture.

Take it easy, see if they take to it, if yes, go for it. But if they aren't ready, if they're not "feeling" it, if they are doing loads of little wees, they no matter how much they want to, no matter how many smarties you give out IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN!

I agree with admidaiwish. It's a switch. Before they're ready it just isn't going to happen and you'll end up cleaning up a lot of mess for a long time. Give it a try and within a few days you'll know if they're ready or not. If they aren't ready, wait a few months and try again.

oh my god, I feel like a failure. I have 3.4 year old DTs (boys), one of them was trained at 2.11, the other one is STILL in nappies and I have tried EVERYTHING.

I potty trained ds at 23 months, during the summer.

Sorry, but truly potty trained/dry is when they tell you they need to go or (heaven) just go, not being bribed onto the potty by you at regular intervals.

Allegedly, whenever you start training, your child will be reliably dry at the age they are ready to be. DD (26months) shows no interest whatsoever. I've sat her on the potty so she knows what it's for, ask her if her nappy needs changing etc but she's clueless right now and I'm in no hurry.

my ds was trained at 2.6 and it was hard work for a long time; dd decided for herself she wanted to wear "big girl pants" at about the same age and was dry and clean almost immediately.

In retrospect, I really wish we had waited with ds at least a few more months.

If you leave them long enough they will toilet train themselves !