My toddler is turning into the biggest moan

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Hi there

I feel i am doing something wrong as my DS who is 17 months seems to be the most unhappy boy in the world.

He sleeps terribly, waking up at the slightest noise. He cries then to be comforted which I am sick to death of at this stage. I am in and out to him that I have decided to just stop and let him cry.

At classes, he seems to be the only only running in the other direction or playing with the dangerous things like plugs or heading for the door. If I meet up with a friend and their kids, he is always coming over to me whinging. The same happens when I pick up the phone to have a chat or look at my laptop!

Why is he doing this do you think? I am with him 24/7 and play, read, sing to him. i bought loads of toys which he has no interest in.He is fine physically too (or so says the doc!)

I hate to say it but it has gotten to the stage where I really hate being a mum now and am considering full time childcare. I wish he could just chill a little. Please help? What do I do here?

Hi! My DS went through exactly the same thing when he was about 12-13 months old! It was so demoralising! So I sent him off to nursery! only one morning a week, to start with, just to give him (and me!) abit of independance and confidence, he didn't like being left at first, but I always called them when I got home to make sure he was OK and he had stopped crying before I had even got back in the car! Now he goes 2 mornings a week and I have started a part time job and we both look forward to our time together and he has come on so much as he socialises with other children his age... And more importantly I don't resent him anymore!

My DD is going through the same thing a bit..only with me, she is lovely with everyone else. I think they are just testing the boundaries and also there is a bit of separation anxiety going on. They also want your attention ALL the time and are jealous when you talk to anyone else. I do think leaving him to cry will just make him generally worse and more clingy though. I would just see it as a phase and give him the attention for the moment, personally.

And try to arrange some time for yourself, even if only a little, it's SO important!

Hi, My DS (22 months) was/is similar with regards to group situations so I hear you. It's so wearing isn't it. To offer some encouragement, DS has got slightly better over the last few months although I do find I have to keep him occupied. It's interesting as he's getting older I've noticed how sensitive he is.

i know, i feel awful leaving him cry but after weeks and weeks of going in and out to reassure him, it has not seemed to work so then I read up on the cry control method. I don't really like doing it either so I am at a loss.

Herecomesthegirls, i agree with getting some me time. I have very little at the minute and am looking into the idea of even putting him into part time childcare as I just don't seem to be able to entertain him like i used to. It is like he is bored of me. I think that should help once i get it sorted.

Oneoftwo, that is good to hear that it has improved. Wearing is the perfect word for it. I can't believe how sensitive he is either. I know it is a lovely trait to have but I can't say boo, literally!

i went through this used to stay up real late at night as didnt want morning to come round he also woke at every noise

after few months well felt that long maybe weeks it changed it hink its frustration not being able to communicate properly what they want along with growth spurt and clinginess

one day he got up and was content and it was lovely and gradually i really enjoyed it ride it out its a phase it will pass being a parent is supposed to be testing just be consistant

very important as they will test and they learn how long it takes before you crack so consistency is best stick to how you want things

when he wakes just say ssshhh and leave make sure no teeth playing up ds had backteeth hurting and found a dummy teething gel and water in his cot settled him back off

good luck it will pass

Yes- teeth play a big part in this I think..my DD has been getting her canines for weeks now and has been so cranky with it and not her usual self at all, also chewing on everything!!

i also found nurofen or medised more affective not calpol and if back teeth they can take ages to come through but did notice big change in my ds with this was so disturbing for him

put cup of water in his cot as his mouth was drying out in the night fromteething gel and he always had a dummy so wouldnt recommend one if he doesnt have but i would probably say thats what it could be

do relaxing time teething gel milk then medised and pop down you might notice settles easier and easily settled if teething gel applied when wakes and nurofen given good luck

thanks for these tips girls.

Well what d'ya know.....he was a complete dream today. He was in great form and laughing the whole day. Couldn't believe it and loved it so am on a high. Could be the opposite tomorrow but I will try the tip with leaving his beaker in with him. He takes a dummy already and would be lost without it.

I tried the Medised for a while which worked a treat at night but I find it makes him groggy the next day so he is on a detox from all medicines to see if they have contributed...not sure , we'll see.