5 year old school issues

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Ds5 is having so many issues at school and no idea what we are supposed to do. Today the head rang in the middle of the afternoon telling me what a nightmare he is, how they have had to evacuate (her words) the classroom twice because of his dangerous behaviour. When I said I thought he had been having a good week I was told even a good day he is very tricky. He already has some toilet anxiety from having a poo accident at school and how they managed that. I just don't know what to do, we have a referral in for autism and adhd but the wait is a long time and even going private has pitfalls. I have no faith left in the school and not sure how much of the negative calls about my son I can take. We rarely see this behaviour at home. He isn't an easy child he is high energy and can have tantrums but not what they describe at school.

To add he is year 1 and will be 6 next month.

Can you tell us a bit about his routine, sleep, speech, what does he eat, what does he do at weekends, does he have any screen time?

He goes to bed normally just after 7, has always had a good solid bedtime we have just made a slight change as he has started playing up so now he doesn't have to go straight to sleep but does have to stay in his room and be quiet and most the time he nearly straight away goes to bed. He eats a good diet plenty of veg and brown bread/ pasta, not the biggest fan of fruit has some treats thrown in but not loads. He wakes up between 6-6.30 and he is meant to stay in his room till how gro clock says does t always manage it. We do have wet beds sometimes but not loads. He does t like busy environments so has been doing a sport at the weekend but it for a lot busier and now doesn't want to do it anymore. We tend to have a mixture of acitivities, he likes been out so we do try to have outside time. He does use a tablet with a mixture of educational programmes and some YouTube though even that he often picks factual programmes. He does try to argue with us, whine about not getting what he wants etc but generally complies. We have always had strict boundaries as I feel that's what he really needs and I think some of the issue at school this year is that at the beginning of the year that wasn't the case.