I just had the most perfect week off with my two toddlers and when picked them up from the childminders today the eldest actually hit me when I tried to take her home and said she wanted to stay with her childminder

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and then was abominable all evening. She said she has more fun with CM and she didnt want to go home. She never hits me- I was stunned. I can't understand it - apart from one spectacularly soggy day when we couldn't get out we had the most fun we've ever had as a family. We're close, she's normally incredibly sunny and keen to go to CM's but equally keen to come home.
I missed them terrifically all day - cried a little in the car when I went to work this morning - most unlike me. Not sure what I want from this. Someone to tell me she doesn't love her childminder more than me I suppose. ugh. Feeling dreadfully insecure now.

Of course she doesn't love the childminder more

She loves you most in the word

But she spent a week with you - then you went off to work & left her. So she is subconsiously punishing you for going away, which is perfectly normal.

HTH

She doesn't love her CM more than you. She's just had a fab week too and is probably really struggling how to express that hence the topsy-turvey reaction. Try not to worry, she should settle back in to her usual routine in a few days.

oh, poor you!

of course she loves mummy the best

What Katymac said.

Don't feel insecure - not only did you have a great time with them but you've made sure they are with somebody they like (they DO NOT love her more than you) when they aren't with you. That makes you an all-round ace mother in my book!

Oh & it doesn't mean she doesn't like the childminder either, just that she prefers her mum (& who wouldn't?)

its just so horrific to hear your 2.5 year old say that they'd rather be with someone else. I sort of know that it was a punishment of kinds - didn't stop me anticipating a joyful reunion and more of the same we had last week. I felt like we'd all made some major leaps forward in understanding each other and then she did the exact opposite of what I had expected. poo. Hey hum, thanks girls