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Treat a child with suspected ADHD differently?

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marie009 · 26/02/2024 13:15

My ds is awaiting an appointment to be assessed for ADHD. I believe he will be diagnosed with ADHD and school have also noticed he is very fidgety and hums a lot. He masks his behaviour at school so even though he's showing some signs at school, not enough for them to make a referral so i made one myself through the dr. Im very patient with ds, for example, if we play a board game and he loses, he will get very upset and throw himself on the floor and i will talk to him and explain that sometimes we win and sometimes we lose and lets play again, dp says im to soft with him and i should just stop playing with him until he learns to not react the way he does. He also hums a lot (i think he's stimming) and unless he's disturbing his baby sister who's sleeping, i wont tell him to stop but dp gets really annoyed and tells him to stop or he'll take his tablet away/cant watch tv (this is when he hums the most). Am i too lenient with ds?

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CadyEastman · 26/02/2024 19:31

No but your DP seems to have zero understanding and tolerance. Is he your DS' Dad?

marie009 · 26/02/2024 20:07

@CadyEastman yes, he's ds dad. He has no patience with him and says he's disciplining him because his behaviour is learnt behaviour and im making him worse by allowing it.

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CadyEastman · 27/02/2024 07:55

marie009 · 26/02/2024 20:07

@CadyEastman yes, he's ds dad. He has no patience with him and says he's disciplining him because his behaviour is learnt behaviour and im making him worse by allowing it.

Just wow. He does know that ADHD is a disability doesn't he? Does he understand how regulation works and how he can help DS with things like exercise and meditation?

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