Attachment disorder or neurodiverse?

[BluLagoon]

I have suspected for a couple of years that my daughter age 7 might have ADHD. I work with neurodiverse young adults so daily familiar with how it can present in girls.

She had difficulties attending her last school at times, woudld be emotionally volatile, and refuse to go in on the mornings and despite reassurance and seeking to support in other ways, would say she wants to stay with me. Frequently would have to be peeled off me and gently manhandled through the door.

long story short we moved house to a new area and after a term home ed we found a lovely new small friendly school. After a happy couple of weeks she has started this behaviour again.

Does this sound like attachment anxiety? A teacher insinuated this was issue but I’m not convinced. I have professional knowledge in this area but seeking second opinions as it’s hard to retain perspective sometimes.

TIA!

It does sound like she's anxious, but I wouldn't jump from that to attachment disorder – surely it's very natural for a child to want their mum when anxious.

How is she once she's in school? The transition is hard, but is she happy/neutral/struggling once there (according to her and according to her teacher/the SENCO/etc.)? When her teacher describes her, does it sound like your daughter, or does she behave quite differently between home and school? If you ask her about school (at a calm point, not when she's about to have to go in), what does she say about it?

How is she when she comes out of school? Does she do any hobbies without you, go out with or stay with other friends or relatives?