HELP 4YO can't accept losing

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My 4 year old DS just can't accept losing at anything, we recently got a games console and he throws major tantrums if he loses. It's causing lots of grief as my DH thinks it's unacceptable behaviour where I think it's all part of the learning process.

Tell DH to get used to it - DD1 still can't take losing and she's turned 6. I still have to do a bit of light cheating to get her to win every game... Her friends last year were the same, tantrums if they didn't "win" the tricycle race. OK at sports day, though.

I still can't accept losing ...although i can manage my tantrums a bit better now

How on earth do you calm her down? He screams for ages, I've tried ignoring it but he follows me around blaming everyone else for hime losing! Any suggestions or suitable tactics for dealing with it.

I'm not exactly fond of losing myself and think a competitive spirit should be encouraged, but really if you seen him go off on one you'd think he was a right spoilt brat.

I always think that its a healthy thing to blame everyone/everything else for losing rather than themselves - it protects their self-esteem

Its something that he will learn to control as he matures, although he could well be one of those people who refuses to accept losing well into adulthood - it's not always a bad thing ...he will be focussed to succeed

I would continue to do as you are doing by ignoring the tantrum as you would any other. When he has calmed down you could gently explain things to him. It will pass ...or at least he will learn to control it.