My child is making me miserable

[nameshame24]

I love her but she's really making my life so hard atm. She's 2 nearly 3, she is up at all hours (mainly due to illness of late and now transitioning into her big girl bed) so I am so tired which is making the day time difficult to manage. I feel like the mood of the house is determined by her and her mood.
Overall I do think she's a normal developing 2 year old and like most 2 year olds pushes boundaries and presents challenging behaviours.
She's my second daughter and my first was just so different and so much easier. I feel so weak by struggling when I know some parents have much more challenging children than I do but I just feel miserable and like everyday is ground hog day. I feel guilty I feel this way as well because she is so lovely and loving.
Am I alone in this or do others feel the same?

Just here for the handhold OP. It sounds normal! I’m sorry it’s making you feel like this though. It’s so hard when you have a little 2ft dictator.

If it helps, I have a four year old who was like this and he is now (mostly) much easier.

I tell myself that being strong-willed will set him up well in the future. But it is hard. Sending good vibes

Thank you. It does help to know that your LO got easier and I know what you mean about being happy they are feisty and able to speak their mind but bloody hell is it challenging when they are at an age that means they can't be reasonable at all!
I barely slept last night because of her and i think that's the reason I am feeling so low.

Have you read anything by Janet Lansbury, or How to Talk so Kids Will Listen?

They are not perfect fixes and not every strategy works, especially if you have a wilful, stubborn LO who knows their own mind. But I’ve certainly found that it helps me, and when I take the time to refresh myself on my notes I made, my relationship with DS immediately improves.

One other useful tip that I got from a Mumsnetter - when everything has gone to shit and you need to repair with DD, just asking her ‘can I play with you?’ can massively reset things. It’s like a wonder phrase.