Why is my 12 month old so wild?

[Lemonmiracle]

So I'm a first time mum to ny 12M old daughter but have lots of nieces and nephews to compare to. Yes I SHOULDNT compare but it's hard not to. She's so crazy and active and just very "naughty". She's always getting into everything and HV even commented on how fast and 'strong willed' she is. I sensed a judgemental tone lol as she didn't want to get weighed at her 9-12m review and was screaming at the health visitor to 'go'. She's very advanced in speech compared to other babies around us and can say quite a few words and is quite alert but she's just so wild and won't do anything. Today a friend came over with her dd slightly younger than mine. She sat and played with my dd's toys, ate her snacks and smiled away. My girl? Climbed the walks and the fireplace, kept crawling and walking out the room and screeching to climb the stairs, she snatched babies dummy and tried to put it back in forbherand also nick it for herself. She shared toys and then occasionally snatched em, made lots of noise and woke baby up from her nap also. She's so sweet and loving most of the time but she's always always bored. We don't do screen time but when I have tried it a few times she's mesmerised like a zombie do I don't know what to do to sometimes. It's hard. Couldn't help but wish she could just be calm sometimes. It also doesn't help that people around me (relatives neighbours etc) like to comment that she's a handful and 'cheeky' which feels backhanded lol

You have yourself a live wire.

She sounds smart and has loads of energy and will probably go far in life.

You will have to keep her busy and on the straight and narrow so yes she is going to be one of those kids that is more work.

Lots of physical exercise, and mental stimulation followed by wind down time. Firm boundaries.

May the force be with you..

@theduchessofspork sounds about right to be honest. I'm also confused about when to start disciplining and setting said boundaries. MIL called me cruel for telling her off for hitting DH (after multiple gentle warnings) But others have suggested it is the correct age to start

Oh definitely by one she is plenty old enough to be told not to hit, and if she doesn’t pack it in to be removed firmly from the fun action

This is exactly what mine is like! You're not alone except I'm afraid to say I am not averse to a little bit of Miss Rachel where I need to leave the room.

@Purple89 I use miss rachel as a last resort sometimes if I'm alone and DH is at work and I need to cook lol. She crawls and tries to touch the oven even though I firmly say no amd remove her. Also she screams so much in a playpen that I physically cannot take it and have to get her out, she hates being trapped and needs to explore

My little boy is similar - he just never ever sits still and likes to do ‘naughty’ things.
My main issue is knowing how to discipline, because at this age do they really understand? They’re just testing the boundaries aren’t they, so saying no doesn’t have any meaning to them, in a sense? Not sure, but sometimes I ignore the behaviour if it isn’t dangerous E.g he kept grabbing a plant and shaking it and when I said no or moved him away he would laugh and do it again. After a few times he went back to it and I turned away when he looked at me and I picked up some of his toys and then he left the plant alone. Any time he goes near the plant I ignore him now and he’s definitely not as interested in touching it anymore. I don’t know if that’s the right or wrong approach but it was the only effective one! When it’s a situation that he could potentially get hurt in cause a mess etc then I try to just remove him from it, but then he kicks off and screams and it’s tiring! Very very hard to know what to do. He never sits and plays with toys - he’s just constantly walking around and throwing toys on the ground which obviously makes him a hazard around other babies 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Richie23 yes my dd sometimes does that. She knows not to touch the bin in the bathroom and has been told no many times. The other day she went near it and I ignored her instead of tell off and she stared at me and said 'nooooo' herself !! So she remembers what things will get mummy to say no but just doesn't care. She also tantrums alot at the moment. If I move her from something dangerous she screams and wriggles her whole body. It's bloody hard work compared to naturally sensible kids