Tantumming 20mo please help before I lose it completely

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Woke at 7.15. Had 20 minute tantrum when I bought her downstairs for no apparent reason.

Refused milk, and then screamed for it, refusd breakfast as she wanted to eat cereal on her lap . Usual 20 minute tantrum over nappy changing. Won't get dressed despite the fact it is freezing, and pulled dressing gown off in temper tantrum earlier. It is now nearly 9.00am, and I feel exhuasted and as if she has been up for hours, as basically it has been one long screaming fit since she got up.

Have been very close to slapping her,and had to walk away. Everything is a battle of wills ATM, and yet I read about 3 years old on here, and wonder how long this is going to go on for

Oh, and of course I,m not allowed to do anything like read a book or go on here as that creates more tantrums

maybe she is coming down with something
what about trying to do something that you dont normally do
I dunno...ask her if she wants to watch a fave dvd
take a walk outside to see the lambs or flowers

good luck and stay calm

I'm with you. My 19 month old is like this every single frickin morning. I have had to walk away from her on many occasion rather than slap her. SHe is a demon monster at the moment. SHe does have a very snotty nose though, so she may just feel crap.
I have a 2.5 year old too. I find her far easier to deal with tbh. Yes she has tantrums and "NO" fits, but I can reason with her far more. Usually I can find out what she wants and give it to her (or offer an alternative). And when she is just plain naughty and won't accept alternatives etc she understands punishments/sanctions so I can deal with it. (when I say punishment I don't mean smacks or putting her on the front step or anything ) Just consequences - If you rip your books, they go in the bin . . . .
SO don't shudder at the terrible 2's/3's I think they are better (imho).

Mine is like this EVERY morning as well.

Big hugs, horrible isn't it. I'm no expert and going through something similar but this is what I find helpful.

1. It will change, eventually.
2. Model calm, gentle behaviour.
3. Try your hardest not to take on her stress/frustration/anger, she needs you to stay calm.
4. She's a bright child, beginning to realise she has a will of her own. Well done you! x

DS1 started tantrums around this age. He doesn't pinch me anymore but he does still headbutt me. Eventually he won't headbutt me anymore but he may do something else! (He's now 2.2). I can see he's so frustrated and until his speech gets better I suppose he'll continue to be.
Good luck and Keep going. x

I have also found that distraction simply doesn't work either, although it did with ds. She is just too single minded and determined for that.....in fact it seems to make her worse , almost as if she can see through what I am trying to do

Snap - mine is totally absorbed in her own tantrumS!! Nothing in this world can calm her if she doesn't want calming (except chocolate, but I can't do that!! Who wants a toothless, obese and bad tempered toddler on a sugar rush!!!)

Hadn't though about chocolate . Will unashamadly resort to this if needs be....

I have always though that 18 mnths to just over 2 is sooo much more difficult. Things will get better when she starts to communicate more easily. Repeat this mantra until they are 18 - 'IT IS JUST A PHASE'.