13.5 month old fighting bedtime but fine with naps and sleep through the night. . . Help!

[teaandkittehs]

I have a lovely little 13.5 month old girl who we sleep trained at 6 months as she didn't find a way out of the 4 month regression. She went straight to sleep for the next 6 months, but its been rocky at bedtime since she turned 1. She goes down for her naps, although wake windows are increasing bit by bit. She sleeps through the night 95% of the time. But getting her to sleep at bedtime has become a nightly battle, she settles for 2 mins, cries, stands up, and has to be resettled. It goes on for around 45 mins. I know there are loads of developmental milestones happening now, teething, and a transition to one nap approaching, but she's fine for all sleep issues except just going to sleep at night. Any ideas or just stories of solidarity would be hugely appreciated as we have just lost the tiny bit of time we have at the end of the day without her as we take it in turns to do a night each to put her to bed and we are both getting Bed Dread when it's our night. She's dropped from a minimum of 11 hours a night to closer to 10 so i guess the nearby nap transition might be messing with things but she is not ready to drop a nap yet, her first wake windows is still only about 3 hours.

It sounds like her sleep needs have reduced a bit, so it's a question of where you want that drop to come from. You could potentially shorten one or both naps, or you can push bedtime later, or morning wake time earlier. (Some children give you more choice about which of these it is than others.)

How long is she napping for in the day?

Her day naps currently range from 2 - 2.5 hours in total, i don't let them go over that, and i keep them to two hours when i have control of them but my partner is the stay at home parent and i think he's a bit reluctant to cut them that short as it's the only time he gets to do other things such as cleaning etc. I think she's more often having closer to 2.5 hours with him because I'm not there to wake her. I expect this will be decided for us in the coming weeks when she drops a nap and then we will see what happens. We've tried keeping her up later however and she still fights sleep for the same amount of time so I'm wondering whether it's developmental. She's become very good at climbing and more vocal over the past few weeks and is moving towards walking although such a fast crawler i don't think she's in a rush to walk! I really hope it settles down as it was glorious when she went to sleep easily for 6 months in a row! I know we are lucky she still sleeps through the night, although there are a few more nighttime disturbances of late, usually she puts herself back to sleep in less than a minute without needing us so that's good at least.