How can I teach my child volume control?

[zeddip]

I have 4 year old girl, she is so loud. Her auto volume is just to shout rather than talk. She also likes to sing loudly frequently. I am at the end of my tether with it all and overstimulated most of the time. We live in a semi and I'm so conscious of next doors having to listen to it too. Sometimes she will sing from the moment she wakes up to the moment she shuts her eyes. We have started saying "there is a time and place for singing" and that for example early morning is not the time. I also frequently say that next doors might be sleeping let's be quiet (eg. early morning).

Me and my husband are introverts and we are really struggling with so much noise, talking etc.

We tell her to be quiet, we say use inside voice. Nothing seems to help at all. She's also really loud on her feet and you can hear her thudding about downstairs if you are upstairs etc.

Her newborn hearing test was fine, but I'm considering getting her ears tested again.

But if all fine in that regard what the hell can we do?? Please help

Send her to musical theatre school 😂

I know it's not what you asked @zeddip but have you got stair carpet?

Will she sing if you get up with her and do something with her in the morning?

Also, if she's shouting, do you Judy ignore her until she realises then explain you'll engage when she stops shouting?

Have you tried a visual chart you can point to to remind her? In line with the idea of inside voices, like a thermometer style bar where the top level is playing outside voices, down to bottom level being something like early morning quiet voices? Might help her to have a visual cue and she could help to make it so you can talk about different volumes and times of the day/situations etc.

Also agree it would be worth getting her hearing checked. My sister in law kept saying how loud my niece was and asked the doctors a few times to check
but they always dismissed it. They got a private test done in the end and she had glue ear and has since had grommets etc.

🤣

Thanks for your responses everyone I've only just seen I've had replies so just thought I'd update. We sat her down and laid out some "house rules" which included not shouting, not singing early in the morning etc. she actually responded really well to it and she's been so much quieter since. She does still have quite a loud voice at times and when excited can be over the top but it feels all round more manageable now.

Thank you for the update, OP!