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What is your opinion on this ? Autism and inappropriate behaviour

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Squi345 · 02/02/2024 13:01

My son who is 5 will go to stay at his dad's house every weekend and one day in the week.
My ex has a partner and they've just had a baby and have a son who is 5 or 6 years old and has autism.

The child with autism is sometimes very aggressive in play and has hurt my son numerous times. This week he has tried to put his hands down my son's pants and touch his privates. I raised a concern with it but thought it was a one off and for their age I wasn't overly concerned but was annoyed things keep happening. My ex says they always tell the child to stop doing things that might hurt others etc etc.
My son came home after spending the evening after school at his dad's and said that the child had said to my son they are going to play the 'rude game' which involves pulling down each others pants, my son didn't want to and the child has pushed him into bed and switched off the light and shut the door and got into bed and touched my son on his privates.

I wasn't told about this from my ex, my son has told me as soon as he's come home. Ive raised my concerns and also was in contact with a public health nurse who said it needs to be reported to the social services as it sounds like learned behaviour. That's all be done and my ex and his partner have been spoken to etc.

The child's mum said she has spoken to the child's school about it and they have said this all normal behaviour.
I've been asked to look up information about autism.

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MargaretThursday · 02/02/2024 16:18

That isn't normal behaviour, and I would be amazed if any school says that. I would refuse to send my ds as they are not keeping him safe.

I'd be tempted to phone the school myself and report it. There's a reasonable chance he's done this on playdates if he's had any, so it won't necessarily come back on you.
Are you sure the public health nurse did actually report it?

Squi345 · 02/02/2024 17:34

Yes she did and I rang and reported it also

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