Can babies have feeding and sleeping patterns from newborn?

[twinklingfairy]

Following a conversation with SIL, she says they can I say not.
I just don't believe it they can, but willing to be told otherwise.

i have heard that some do. tbh it sounds possible, though i'm sure if it happens it is a fluke really. nothing is impossible with human beings.

hmm, it just gets my goat, cos she is all for putting babies into a routine straight away, but I can't help but think it is cruel.

they will have their own feeding/sleeping patterns but whether they match up with what you want them to do is another matter!! You would be able to have a general pattern of feeding, sleeping, etc but the times would vary from day to day so it would be a routine in that respect. To try and stick to rigid times for each would be hard both for the baby and the parent and would probably involve a lot of tears (from both of them!)

I think when I hear the word 'routine', with regards a newborn, I just cringe.
I mean If they have a pattern it may only last days and to spot it would be very clever, so why look. Why even consider it in one so young?

Any one out there got any thoughts, I would really appreciate some feed back to stop me sending a silly retort to SIL, ending up in a silly argument.

Both mine did.

Really!?
Gosh.
What kind of routine?
Did they keep it up?

I didn't think of it as a routine ,and hadn't read any books either

They both did have patterns of eating and sleeping though which I simply followed.

imho there is a huge differnece between a baby having a natural routine , which some (not mine though) might and which could then evolve to "putting" them into a routine ie. enforcing some sort of schedule which may not be truly in synch with their needs or relaxed when they might need to adjust it , such as at growth spurts.

Your SIL would appear to think that all babies are the same. She is Oh So Badly Wrong.

The only reliable pattern they have is of waking up screaming the moment you're about to sit down/sleep/eat something that needs 2 hands.

Hmm ok so there is a difference to having a routine and having a pattern?
So I guess, yes, all babies have a pattern which you wok around, but not necessarily a routine as such?
I can go with that.

lol wanderingtrolley yes, I can follow that loic too

Oops, logic not loic

Ok have checked the email frm SIL she is talking patterns not routine.
Her sister is due on may and has pregnancy diabetes so her babies will have to have injections every 2 hours. The sister is concerned that it will upset the feeding and sleeping patterns. I jumped on the band wagon thinking she meant routine.
However, I still think 2hourly jabs won't really impact cos they won't really know any different and it is only for 24hrs.
So it would hardly impact on anything, will it?
Disturb the poor loves yes, but impact on patterns? not enough to worry about surely?

ah, thanks pistachio, really happy to have finally graduated. Still early days (4+6) but good all the same.

My DD was the same, I went with her demands until she settled into routines which would change everynow and again.
My mum said, after abut 2 months, that she should be feeding 4hourly but I just carried on and she eventually did of her own accord. Prob bout 3 months I think?

oh, is that when you are due, I was racking my brain to try to remember
We are due in November now, so only a month between.

I can't help but get annoed with SIL she is a routine lady and no doubt her sister is the same. Family of control fanatics.
But honestly, to worry over patterns being upset in a newborn baby?
I am not going to reply, it is silly and I know it is, I don't need an argument with her over it.
We have different parenting styles, I think hers is plain daft she thinks mine is ok but couldn't do it herself.

my dd came out and fitted into mine and ds's routine from day 1....within a week she was even having the same bedtime as him (though we'd put her in the moses basket int he living room and move her upstairs when we went up. Though when i say routine i dont mean everythign to th second, just roughly doing everything at around the same time every day.

ah could be that she is thinking the injections may mean that the natural feeding/sleeping instincts may be disturbed which could make it harder initially to get feeding etc established.