For parents on children between 4 - 5

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Would any of you please answer a few questions for me please?

Age in years and months?
Gender?

If you left your child playing in a room or watching TV, how long would it take for them to notice you are gone? Would they call for you/follow you/cry/not be bothered etc

When they meet people you know but are stranger to them are they shy/confident/wanting to touch them I.e climb on them/wrestle them etc

If a person asked them to do something and they didn't want to do it would they be rude to the person a Dr/ a teacher / aunt/uncle I.e throw a tantrum or shout no at them / get angry at them etc

Thank you for reading and hopefully answering

Are you worried about whether or not your own child's behaviour is in the range of typical development?

Daughter, 4 years, 6 months.

She would generally notice I was gone within minutes and call or come look for me. If I tell her I'm going to the kitchen or whatever, she'd be okay for quite a bit longer, though.

Meeting people she's usually a bit shy, looking down, not saying much, but warms up relatively quickly. She wouldn't climb on them or wrestle someone she's just met (or hug them).

Generally very well behaved for teachers at nursery, in classes, and on the rare occasion she's seen a doctor/dentist. We, as her parents, get more pushback, as is normal and healthy for a child.

My son is 4 years and 3 months old

He would take a little longer to notice I was gone while watching tv, maybe 10-15 minutes. If he's really into a programme he won't keep his eyes off it.

My son is way too confident and would make friends with everyone and age sex or profession wouldn't alter that either.

He's has his bad days and good days with listening and taking direction from adults. Would listen to teacher most times but there has been days when he has chosen to not. More push back on our front then teachers.

@skkyelark yes worried about my sons development. One moment I'm like this is typical age related behaviour next minute I'm thinking surely this isn't right. Am I a bad mother? Am I not disciplining him enough? Am I not teaching enough about respecting other people? Etc. My other child is nothing like this but I suppose no 2 people are the same.

There is such a wide range of 'typical development' that it's quite hard to know, isn't it? If he's at school or pre-school/nursery, have you spoken to the staff there? They see so many children, so can have a good sense of when behaviour is in the typical range (albeit challenging!) and when there's something that needs a bit of extra help.

These questionnaires can give an overview of social and emotional development at different ages, which is sort of what you're asking about. I've linked both the 4 year and 5 year one – I'm not sure exactly how old your son is. https://www.socfc.org/SOHS/Disabilities%20Mental%20Health/ASQ/ASQ%20SE%2048%20Months.pdf (4 years) and https://www.socfc.org/SOHS/Disabilities%20Mental%20Health/ASQ/ASQ%20SE%2060%20Months.pdf (5 years).

My son is 4.5 years old. I could leave him in a separate room with the tele on or playing if I need to get a shower or something and always let him know what I’m doing. Maybe 15/20 mins and then he’d come find me.
In terms of strangers, he will say hi and often warm up to them but doesn’t ever have physical contact with them (high 5 at a push) and is often like this even with grandparents and extended family. But I’ve been very clear on boundaries and consent with him so he knows none of this is expected and he can say no if he wants. He has ignored people outright in the past and so I’ve spoken to him about being polite by saying bye etc.
Id take it in the wider context of his personality but agree have a chat with school and his teacher see what they think