Crying (screaming) baby …

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Not sure if I’m in the right topic but I wondered if anyone had any tips on how to cope with baby screaming in public. Shes 4mo and I haven’t been out with her all that much. Her cry is very VERY loud and is always a scream, regardless of the issue. I find it so overwhelming and embarrassing but I know I need to overcome it.

I think the thing to try and remember is that all babies cry and it's human nature to look.

That doesn't mean that anyone is judging you or her though. In fact when I hear a baby like that I often just feel a bit sorry for the DPs as I remember what DS was like as a baby.

Please do take your baby out. It would probably do you good to see some other adults and babies and children learn to socialise by watching you socialise.

@CadyEastman thank you. If you saw the looks I got on the train the other day when she screamed .. 😢 just felt awful. Hurriedly got off the train drenched in sweat from stress.

It’s so hard when they cry and there doesn’t seem to be a reason why.
We found that if we had him in the carrier rather than the pram then he would settle a bit easier, so maybe try that if you’ve mostly been using the pram.
Also keeping track of wake windows and making sure baby isn’t super tired and struggling to sleep (there’s also the 4 month sleep regression which can make sleep difficult and then babies are grumpy as they are so tired).
The only other things I can think of is to check if she’s uncomfortable e.g gassy. Maybe have a look at baby massage - I found this really helped my little one to calm down a bit. And any other pain type situation - was birth ok? Some babies can be left with uncomfortableness from birth so that might be worth looking into.
The more you go out the more you’ll both get used to it. It’s hard when you think people are looking, but even if you just start by going out to the supermarket for a couple of things, then you can leave if needed, but it’s a fairly noisy environment anyway so any crying won’t disturb people. Then you can build up confidence.