And sometimes resent her for it. I feel so bad.
Dd1 has autism and adhd, dyslexia, dyspraxia and bpd, so she hasn’t had the easiest ride of it, but we muddled through and she is now 20 and we have a strong bond.
Dd2 is a whole different kettle of fish. She is 6 and I absolutely love her to pieces-I had 4 miscarriages and 6 years of infertility with my ex husband before I fell pregnant with her so she was a very wanted baby. She had multiple food allergies including milk and soy from birth, severe reflux, acid aspiration and failure to thrive so screamed constantly from birth and never slept (bedtime is still a nightmare 6 years on). She hit milestones late and used to get incredibly frustrated as a baby and toddler. Now she is usually described by others as “sassy”, “confident” or “strong minded”. She can be incredibly mean to her friends despite always having kindness modelled to her. She talks to me like I’m dirt beneath her feet and regularly kicks, hits and bites me, despite me constantly addressing it. If she is told not to do something she does it with bells on despite knowing there will be consequences. She has an incredibly short fuse and is regularly kept in at school during break and lunch and moved to a different seats because of her behaviour.
I am a SAHM with dd2 (I worked in London when dd1 was little so she was brought up going to breakfast club, afterschool club and holiday clubs, and I was always too knackered to play). Dd2 gets all the attention she could need, I play games with her, we do after school activities and days out at the weekend, she eats good, home-cooked food. I try and make sure I am firm but fair. I love her fiercely, but feel so responsible for her behaviour. What have I done wrong? Why is she so naughty?