Help. My 12 week old & I cry together

[CookieNzima]

Hi There
My baby boy Noah is turning 3 months on Good Friday. For the first 11 weeks of his life he has been a very quiet relaxed and somewhat scarily good baby. He was very happy and smiled pretty much 90% of the day. He'd just started sleeping through the night 3 weeks ago (well midnight to 4am) and since last friday he has mastered the bottom lip pout, tears, fits of uncontrolable and inconsolable crying, doesn't want to eat and is back to 3 hourly feeds through the night and power naps through the day. He has for the past two weeks began chewing his hands instead of taking his dummy, he drools like a puppy, he would rather suck his bottle teats that eat and is just unhappy in general. Ive seen two doctors and a paedeatrician and they all say that as he doesnt have a temperature he is just going through a phase. Is this true. We've gone through 1 month of colic and now facial eczema. CAN ANY ONE HELP ME?????

Aw Cookie it's hard with a newborn

Bumping for the PN crew

Congratulations, BTW

i;m no expert (trying to work out my 12-day olf der) but am sending you hugs. as boysarelike has said, hopefully one of the MN wise women will be along shortly

Is it early teeth and a growth spurt?

Newborns are hard work - just as you think you've got it sussed they go and change the goal posts and move into another phase (IME).

Have you spoken to HV about feeling teary still?

Good luck - it does get better!

I'm not any kind of expert, but he's not cutting a tooth is he? I know he's a little young, but this is what my son used to do for a few weeks before anything appeared.

My ds1 cried for a ,month - from 12 weeks - 16 weeks. HV was baffled - all that she could come up with was that he seemed to be angry.

sounds like teething to me. have you tried some calpol to see if that makes him happier? if so hes obviously in some sort of discomfort that calpol might ease for a bit. worth a try?

Give him a paracetamol suppository. If he is back to his sweet self, then he was in pain before. I would take him to paed again in that case, who should check him for teething, ear infection, etc.

my ds was teething from 6 weks although teeth didnt come through till 6 mths

get flannel end in freezer and rub on gums

dentinox teething gel can be applied every 20 mins and also neurofen as calpol didnt touch teething pain

the flannel is great as numbs and toughens gums

hope he settles soon used to see instant relief in ds when i rubbed flannel on

Sounds just like ds at 3 mo in terms of fists in mouth - definitely teething with ds, even though 1st teeth didn't appear until 6mo.

You can also get teethers that you put in the fridge which are cooling to gums.

Hope you get it sussed soon.

Ours is 11 wks and has been doing this for 3-4 wks. Also grabs our fingers and shoves them into different positions in his mouth and chews like crazy. Have been giving him Calpol following a hernia op last week and it def calms the teeth down too, although we then usually have an irate child who's all sticky - he hates that!! He's only a wee one (10lbs 5oz) so our problem is finding any teething devices he can fit in his mouth - I keep trying the corner of flannel but atm he prefers our fingers. Hope you find something to settle your lo, they look at you with such gratitude when you do!! KWYM about the big cry - heartbreaking, isn't it?

Thanl you all so much. I was reading books and crap on the internet and it such a relief to hear from you all that this is somewhat a normal reaction to possible teething.

I have used some gum numbing gel this afternoon when he usually is the worst and it appears to have worked a treat. Still a little grumpy but not grabbing his head etc.

THANK YOU SO MUCH.

ah poor love. glad things have got better for you both.

my DS2 (15 wk) chews his hands and sucks this tumb so much i have to prise it out of this mouth to dress and feed him!

btw my DS1 (3.6) is called Noah and i adore the name

If it's any help to anyone,my hv suggested letting your dc when they are first teething (not once they've got teeth unless you are mad) to chew on your nose: right size and texture for sticking in their mouth and chomping their little gums on! Feels very odd and tickly and you look nuts but worked for dd!

three months is just a difficult age I'm afraid, but like the earlier difficult phases, it too will pass. No consolation when you're in the middle of it I know.

My DD started teething around this age, and it was on and off till her first tooth appeared at 7months. I use Nelson's teeth homeopathic chamomilia granules (from Boots in the vits/supplements aisles). They seem to take any cheek redness away pretty quickly.

Somone on my PN thread recommended this book. I don't know if I'd buy the book, but if you scroll down there is a chart showing baby's fussy weeks and a bit of a synopsis of each chapter. DD is now 9mo old and she has definately followed the fussy phases as per the chart. Not a lot to be done about them really, but forewarned is forearmed. If you know it's coming then it won't be so bad!