We have hit the terrible two's, please lord give me strenght to go as i just want to give up....

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Yes DD is in the tantruming, if i don't get my own way i am going to scream shout & hollow stage & it is literally driving me to a melt down.

She is a very very "high" maintanance child, head strong, determined & never gives up.

She is testing me to limits i just don't think i have & i honestly don't know how the hell i am going to get through it!

Probably the moral things but day to day life with her is one massive battle from the minute she wakes to the minute she goes to bed, then again in the middle of the night.

I am ashamed to say i am embarrassed by what my neighbours think because she just screams so loud even at 5.30am.

Like this morning take ds to school, hold hands with her to the school as she screams if i get the pushchair out, she then proceeds to sit & lie on the floor & won't walk because she thinks it's funny, i get down to her level tell her in a stern voice " if you don't walk you will have to go into the pushchair" i then pick her up she screams at the top of her lungs. i walk a bit & then tell her she can walk if she behaves & walks properly which she does for a bit then we repeat.

I would not dare go out to the shops or anything because she just screams, i need milk but am putting it off!

God i sound like a crap mum but i honestly keep thinking what the feck have i done, what the hell can i do to sort this & how much longer can i actually deal with this, she is making our family life utter misery, me dp rowing, me shouting at the kids all the time because she is totalyl stressing me out.

I feel like i am living in a nightmare & really just want to send dd away, sad i know but so true

What can i do?

Oh i feel relieved i am not the only one going through this, sometimes you start to feel so alone & like your doing something wrong.

LadySnotAlot i also feelt he same about you with my ds who is 5, he can be abit stroppy & it can be his mouth i get more than anything but he is very well behaved & i always feel like he is being oushed aside & dd takes up all my time.

Dd goes to bed about 6.30-7pm so ds will stay up for an hour & we sit reading his books from school or having a chat ifwe can, he loves it. just me & him time like it used to be.

Well dd was up at 6am but seems in a bit of a better mood, she slept through the night so this helps, hopefully we can have a bit of a better day today!

Have had a week of hell with my ds, 2 ish. Have started whistling and singing when I need to ignore. Think maybe it's a bit cruel, am I making fun of him? But, need some distraction. I have not stopped going out, but it can get so embarassing.

Dp tantrums back to her. That makes her really mad, but it is quite amusing!

I have a DS2 who is 2 and a half and very wearing. Apart from constantly stropping and changing his mind about most things his worst habits just now are hitting (me and his brother) Not hard admittedly but not acceptable, whoosh onto the naughty step, it is practically threadbare, and shouting "Shut up Mummy" at me when I tell him off. Sometimes this is accompanied by him blowing a raspberry too.
We are about to go on a plane and now dreading it as I can foresee him demanding to fly the plane, open doors mid-flight and being rude, naughty child in front of all other civilised holiday makers, who will be hoping we are not at the same hotel as them.
He does cuteness well too though.

Has anyone tried sedatives?

Oh I'm sooooo glad I found this website! I've joined in desperation as I'm at my wits end. My DD is 2 1/2 going on 22 1/2. She is so wilful its untrue, tho having read all your posts I now kno I'm not alone!!! I have spent the past week going to work in tears cos of the horrendous tantrums she has every morning over the simplest things!!!! Feel very close to losing it and tho DH is very supportive he is feeling same as me! Will be a regular visitor from now on!!

Ok, bit embarrassing but- If i'm really struggling I always give 'surreal distraction' a go...In the midst of tantrum I all of a sudden go (in a startled fashion, perhaps looking up into trees or sky)-

"Oh my god! Did you hear that?", "What was that noise?"...

...try it a couple of times until you get their attention then say you thought you heard a monkey (or whatever) in the tree. Recruit them to go and find the monkey. Make covert monkey noises if need be. They'll often forget what they were upset about and you can eek a 'look for the monkey' game out until you arrive at your destination. My DD now does it to me when I'm upset.

This sounds familiar. Terrible 2s are a dim and distant memory now....my youngest is now 10. But it doesn't last forever just feels like it. Then they lull you into a false sense of security for a few years. Then they become teenagers!!!!!! Very similar behaviour actually but now they are bigger than you and have an answer for absolutely everything. After several years with eldest 2 am about to start again with dd who is 10 going on 18!!. I will be able to get a job with the diplomatic service by the end, my negotiating and persuasive skills are so good.

Thank you so much mrs macaroon, your message has just given me a real good giggle and I will be sure to try it, no doubt within the next couple of days!!

Am bumping in the hope that there are more mums who have tips in dealing with this in the 'been there done that' vein.
Have just had 3 full on tantrums in 24 hours from 2 yrs 8 months DS approximately 10 hrs of which I was at work for (goodness knows how many with nanny)
Funniest(well not funny at the time) was waking up in the night in a full blown tantrum. 'Throw Daddy in the bin right now' (Daddy lucky sod is in Barcelona 'working') When he finally calmed down I asked him if he had had a dream. 'Yes mummy it was my birthday and you were there and Daddy was there and Daddy pinched a bit of my birthday cake' And that is why you were screaming??
'Yes mummy'
??????!!!!!