Recently bought a house with my partner, we each have 2 children. When his children stay, I find their behaviour really odd and hard to deal with.
when his daughter is doing something she shouldn’t, something she’s been told not to do (mostly involved my children and their toys) she’ll say “well, she said I could!” - this then upsets my children, who are older, because not only did they not tell her she could, they know they’d get into trouble too if they had. And then it leads to her needing to be told more than once, it’s an absolute pain. Then his other kid does nasty things when he thinks no one is watching - while climbing off the sofa he stood on my daughter’s leg. And I actually watched him look at the space around him and then he chose to stand on her and said ‘I couldn’t get past, she was in the way’ - he gets right in their faces and does horrible things, again when he thinks no one is watching. My partner tried to deal with it but they will just not be told, they’re so defiant and take no notice. This is daily behaviour, it’s becoming a horrible environment to live in and I’m so worried about my children. Not only do I not want them to feel like they can’t just relax but I also worry they’ll pick up their bad habits. Honestly, I don’t think my children are perfect - they’re far from it. But they’re definitely not nasty or argumentative.
any advice?
thanks