My 8 year old DD seems to be having issue with couple of girls in her class at school, let's call them Lin and Amy.
She's been having the same issues on and off with these girls for past couple of years. Issues being..Lin and Amy are best friends together, and they seem to have phases where they are willing to play with my DD and then cut her off when they want to or if they disagree over something. Now my DD has her own couple of friends who she normally plays with during break times but recently Lin and Amy have been wanting to play with my DD but have asked DD to not play with her own friends. This has been upsetting my DD as her refusal means Lin and Amy cut her off. Now my DD kind of finds Lin and Amy cool girls and want to play with them too.
My DD is very emotionally sensitive and is unable to handle difficult situations and changing behaviours. Anything that goes on in school reflects on her behaviour at home. Previously, i have spoken to her teachers, and they have resolved differences between DD and Lin and Amy. DD even complained of bullying once by these girls.
I have always listened to DD compassionately and have advised her accordingly but this morning she had a full blown melt down where she was crying incessantly for 40 mins and refusing to go to school citing multiple issues such as her teachers shouts in the class, it's too cold and that Lin and Amy stare at her. I am at loss as what to do. After running out of my patience towards the end of her melt down i told her to toughen up and stop being so sensitive, like if someone is looking at her, ignore them, this shouldn't upset DD.
Today i asked her if she'd like me to speak to her teacher / headteacher again and DD said No. I don't know what to do and it's really bothering me as DD's behavior when she has these melt downs is unacceptable.