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Potty training

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Dottedrainbowmonkey · 06/01/2024 23:08

I’m desperate for some advice/ help regarding potty training.
My daughter was born with a brain abnormality and she has autism too although despite her diagnosis’ she presents and acts like a typical little girl, she’s a little behind and at 4 years old she’s probably around 6 months delayed which is incredible as we were told there was a chance she wouldn’t walk/talk. We do have some struggles but who doesn’t with a 4 year old?

I have been trying to potty train her since she was 2 and a half and nothing has worked! We have been that focused for so long that her little brother was fully toilet trained at 20 months!

We have tried every method you can read online or think of! we have left her naked, we have put knickers on first and then a nappy so she gets the sensation of being wet, we have tried taking nappies away completely , giving her a little tent to hide in and use the potty in privacy, about 5 different potties… all sorts! She will not even touch a toilet without shaking in fear so at the moment that’s out the question.

She has become an absolute master of holding herself and will not wee herself at all as she doesn’t like the sensation of being wet so can be in knickers from 8am - 7pm without so much as a dribble.
I’ve tried blowing bubbles, books, blowing candles out , warm water but to no avail.

I’m guessing what I’m asking is if anyone else has been in this position and can help/ give advice? I’m so determined for her not to go to school in September in nappies but I’m at a complete loss on what to do?!

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PinkMimosa · 07/01/2024 08:11

I think I'd ask @MNHQ to move this over to the SN Children section as you'll no doubt get lots of advice that works for NT DC but might not work for your DD Flowers

Dottedrainbowmonkey · 09/01/2024 23:20

Thank you for your response, I haven’t a clue how to do that as I don’t tend to use mumsnet often but thank you anyway !

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Pjmasksonrepeat · 10/01/2024 20:32

My son is likely autistic and was a lot later than most at his nursery for potty training. He cracked it just before starting school last year. Personally I would say take a step back from it for a few weeks/month. Try and get her just weeing naturally again and not holding it and don't make a big deal but of it. Once shes calm try again with no pressure on her or yourself. It can take longer for some kids.

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