We struggle with my 8 yo daughter. Shes mostly great at school but her behaviour at home is awful especially at bed time. Today hubby went back to work and I have spent the day cleaning, tidying and sorting. We had breakfast and lunch together, and we watched a film together but the rest of the day (mostly from 12:30-4) she has been playing on her iPad with her 10 year old sister. They've been brilliant together. Then hubby came home at dinner time, we couldn't get her off the iPad. She then had a massive tantrum and has basically been shouting, screaming, throwing herself around and answering back. It's been awful. She only just quietened down. I can't handle the shouting and screaming at all.
This isn't just a one off. She does have outbursts and struggles with her emotions etc. I always offer a cuddle and try and de-escalate but it's often too far gone.
I'm so upset as I feel the iPad time today hasn't helped. I feel like we need to put a positive reward in place so they earn iPad time!
What sanctions and rewards work? We've tried a point system like they have at school using class dojo. The points turn into money but it's hard to manage.
I'm also sad as I was going to take them to the cinema tomorrow. Just doesn't seem fair when my 10 year old has been great and her 8 year old sister is shouting at us and answering back. I have no one to leave her with whilst I take the 10 year old. Do we still go, or not?