My son is 3 years 8 months and has quite a bad speech delay but is catching up, he has a birth defect which effects larynx/voice box area and it’s always been unclear wether it effects his speech as it’s quite rare and there isn’t many children to provide evidence of causing a speech delay.
His behaviour is just awful, we have tried literally everything. His new thing at the moment is punching and spitting. Today he spat in another child’s face in soft play, absolutely unacceptable and I am beyond disgusted. We had no intention of taking him into soft play today as it’s usually a trigger for very bad behaviour but we took him to a rock climbing class to try and add some structured actives into the mix and it just totally backfired, he ran into the soft play on the way out and refused to come out, other parents were laughing at him and making really awful comments :( I am so ashamed and embarrassed and blaming myself however I have done quite literally everything in my power. He is such a lovely, sweet boy when he isn’t in these ‘phases’ and his pre school have had no concerns. He is starting ‘big school’ nursery in a few weeks and I’m so worried about it.
I am starting to wonder if there is something else going on, wether he is on the spectrum somewhere, he fits some signs but not others… I just want to get him help if he needs it. I don’t know where to start. I’m totally at a loss. 😭😭😭 any advice? Anything at all, I just feel like a failure .