Hi all. My lovely little girl turned 1 just before Xmas. We sleep trained her at 6.5 months as she never came out of the 4 month sleep regression and woke up every 25 - 45 minutes. She trained very quickly and easily and has slept through the night pretty much every since except minor hiccups when transitioning from 3 to 2 naps. Just before her first birthday, she started fighting bedtime, refusing to settle, crying, needing multiple visits to resettle, sometimes having to get her up and read to her more. She stands up in her cot repeatedly and cries, and we have to go back to resettle her. I gather a lot of things are kicking this off around her age, pulling up to stand, chatting and babbling more etc, but we are now spending up to two hours settling her which was pretty much instantaneous until two weeks ago. We now have to keep returning and then stay and stroke her until she falls asleep, which was not something she needed before and is not a habit we want to allow to cement. We've shortened her day naps and lengthened her wake windows but it's having no effect. Anyway advice or just reassurance that it will pass would be so appreciated! As an insomniac myself, any problems with her sleep tend to lead to sleepless nights for me due to the anxiety it causes. As the breadwinner for the family (my partner is largely a sahd but also works part time) i have to sleep otherwise I'll really screw up my job as a university lecturer. We take it in turns to put her to bed and to get up with any night wakings, which have started to happen once or twice a night a night too and can last from minutes to two hours at worst. I tend to only get a couple of hours sleep on my nights due to the anxiety and its very hard to do my job on so little sleep as i just feels like crying in public all the time. My partner has a preteen son who lives with us too and he has to parent him and do the school run etc so we have to share baby duties otherwise it would be unfair on my partner. I think separation anxiety has something to do with it as well as development. She's now getting less than 10 hours sleep a night, sometimes 8, whereas it used to average at 11.