Wow what shitty mother I've just let my kids down

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Going through some personal shit, my kids have been horrible all week with their behavior today has been the same I am at my wits end I've just lost it in front of them and I don't mean shouting I mean actually lost it full on melt down, shouting screaming crying uncontrollably I'm sat feeding my baby sobbing and they're crying in their room I've failed them.

Ffs I felt like the shittest mum going I've probably damaged them it was a literal adult melt down I should have had more self control and lost it when they weren't around me. I don't know why I'm posting this just to get it off my chest I guess.

Parenting is fucking hard.

Oh poor you 🙁 it is bloody hard, and so hard to keep it together all the time. How old are they? I think once everyone has calmed down, maybe an age apropriate talk with them to explain that adults get big feelings too, it's normal to feel overwhelmed and that we all have to learn how to deal with them, etc etc. Don't pretend it didn't happen and be honest.
I'm not an expert though, it's just how I've dealt with it if I've cried infront of my kids (more often than I care to admit).
Do you have any support around you?

You aren't a shitty mother for this. You're a human being who reached the limit of her coping capacity.

Give them a hug, say sorry and explain that even grown-ups can feel overwhelmed with big emotions but you'll do your best not to do that again. Then do something nice as a family.

It sounds like you're having to cope with a lot at the moment - do you have anyone you could ask for some extra support or to talk things through with?

Parenting is bloody hard, and we don't always get it right. But here you can show your children how to calm down, apologise for getting something wrong, and ask for help - all pretty useful lessons for them to learn.

You're not a shitty mum.. for one, you recognised what you've done. And that's normal. We all reach our limits at times.

Go in and see them and explain that you were frustrated and at times you find things tough too. Depending on their ages, they might be able to resonate!

Don't torture yourself! You got this Mumma 🤍

I'm so glad everyone has given such good and supportive advice. Don't beat yourself up, they are right! Xxx