33 month old getting violent and won't stop

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I have a 33 month old son who since he was about 27 months started with 'terribke twos'. Usually hate that term but I'm not going into everything he does. He's had a lot of upheaval this year, we've moved twice and had a new baby. He isn't at all jealous when I'm with the baby or feeding them. Does get very jealous when dad has baby though but he isn't violent then.

Sometimes, when he doesn't get his own way, he will see red and there's no talking him down. He will hit, kick, nip and try to bite me. I've tried holding him and hugging him, trying to kiss him to calm him down. Tried just leaving him in a room and talking him down. Once he has calmed he will do ,5-10 deep breaths then want cuddles and says he loves me.

It's happening about once a week, the rest of the time he's amazing. He's developing well, he's on track with everything and a brilliant big brother. Just sees red and goes crazy. Will this pass or is it worth speaking to my HV?

Biting really isn't good. Is he having problems expressing himself? Sometimes a little speech delay can add to frustration. There's a handy SLT progress checker here.

Have you noticed any triggers for his anger too like if he's tired or hungry or both?

Dr Sears has some useful tips on hitting and biting here which might be useful.

And is he going to daycare yet and does he display any of this behaviour there?

Just to say we're in a similar situation. Our DS doesnt bite or hit but boy does he throw a tantrum. I've today messaged my HV for some help as its becoming unbearable to take our DS (also 33 months) out anywhere due to his tantrums. Its also starting to affect mine and husbands relationship. Other reasons have contributed to us reaching out for help including delayed speech, he's not yet talking and has only recently started stringing 2 words together, and very fussy eating.

Our DS has always been quite strong headed but since my DD was born this July his behaviour has definitely got worse. His lack of speech I think contributes to a lot of his frustration. How is your DC and speech?

Thinking of you and hope things ease up xx