I think I hate my 3 year old

[pinkhairmum]

It feels so awful to say that I think I hate my 3 year old, she's so beautiful n so pretty n so tiny, but her behaviour is absolutely awful!!! I can't take her out in public, can't take her to anyone's house, can't take her for food, coming home from nursery is awful cos what should take 10 minutes takes 30 because she kicks off n screams, no one wants to spend time with her because she kicks off at every little thing, I don't even wanna take her anywhere because it's so embarrassing her kicking off n screaming n shouting, she makes me feel an anger I've never felt before but it just ends up with me hurting myself out of anger, I don't know how I've not broke my phone cos I've thrown that in pure anger too, I don't wanna bring her up like this but how do I control myself when she makes things that difficult that I lose my shit, I don't get a break, I work full time, I then have her every night, and I only have a few hours to myself on a Sunday, I am exhausted I am knackered and I don't want to parent anymore

It sounds like you are expecting too much from your three year old. That is an age where they just don't listen or behave or do as you say. It's unbearable at times but all the behaviour is normal. Honestly it isn't as bad as you make out. Just ride it out things will change.

It’s been like this for months, I’m honestly not hopeful things will change

Does your sweet girl have other dev issues like autism? I am asking because my girl is 2,5 years old and with me she is like your girl and at the daycare she is the complete opposite and does not do any of the tasks her caregiver ask her to do. I am scared it autism.

As far as I’m aware she doesn’t show any signs of autism, I’ve done a bit of research on it and the only thing she has is speech delay, aside from that none of it applies to her :( like she honestly does have her good days but the majority of the time I feel like someone’s gonna call social services cos it makes me so angry that I end up shouting and I hate it cos I don’t want to bring her up like this but how do you stay calm when you’ve been trying for ages to just change a nappy n all they’ve done is scream at the top of their lungs

Thank you for your reply. I totally understand how you are feeling. Try to assess her behaviour with a specialist just to rule out some behavioural stuff. Kids can be influenced by everything including our (parents) emotional distress and tiredness.