My 10 year old daughter is so funny and caring but then switches if something isn't right, like she asked me for my phone to watch and I said no as it was charging and she started screaming, kicking doors messing rooms and then put a scarf round her neck and said I do not want to be in this world anymore! She pulls at her hair and hits herself and will always go for things in the house you like and throw them and try and break them, I used to shout back but obviously that made her worse, I now either let her get on with it or ask her to go and have a few minutes to try and calm down, she likes it if you start talking to her like a child and she then calms and talks the same, and just like that she will change and act like nothing has happened, she can be so cruel with what she says to us, saying to her big brother that it was his fault my other son died! He was premature and born before my daughter but he was so upset she could say that, she will shout at us in shops, i told her one day I would smack her bum and she then put the car window down shouting child abuser! She is great with friends if it's one on one but if it's a group then she can't handle it and starts fighting or arguing and even threatening to cut her friends hair off! The doctor literally said well she is a child and the school isn't as supportive as I would like, they do have her doing one on one learning sometimes which I know she likes, and she goes to a woman at school and she gets her feelings out, she has a very short attention span, if within 5 minutes she isn't excited then that's it she hates everything and wants to go home, she can't sit still always moving, jumping, dancing without even realising she is doing it, how can I get them to get her tested for any disorders? Or is she just a bad girl? I am at breaking point 🥺