Hello,
I have a newly turned three year old and I need help with the above phrase please! If I stop her from doing something she wants to do, ask her not to do something or turn down a request from her, her response is a “You’re making me sad/ angry”. I know it’s great that she’s identifying how she feels but I can’t tell you how much it’s starting to grate on me now after months of this. Do I just need to suck it up and ‘accept blame’ for making choices to protect her safety and well-being? I don’t want her placing her emotional responses on other people.
It’s been months and I would love a good, kind response!
I have tried ignoring it, but she repeats louder and louder. Thing is, I can’t let her do whatever she wants for safety reasons and do try to limit saying no to important things. I’ve tried a range of different responses but haven’t managed to find a winner yet. If I need to carry on just dealing with it, fine.
Just thought I’d reach out in case anyone has handled this and has a winning solution. I understand it’s pretty trivial, but when you’re being told you’re making someone sad/ angry/ upset for the umpteenth time when you’ve spent the whole day trying to look after them , I can’t tell you how shitty/ resentful it makes you feel.