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Worried about son being referred for school emotional support

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GettingOldWithoutStyle · 25/11/2023 20:03

He's 6. He's had a bad week at school and his teacher has suggested he may need emotional support for not coping well with change. For context - He was caught fiddling with himself on the carpet during storytime and a couple of days later he was seen counting the butterflies on a girls top - not inappropriately touching her just touching each butterfly on her zip, shoulder etc. teacher said he had seemed off/distant and asked if he'd struggled at home. All that had happened during the week was one of his support teachers has left and he was upset because I hadn't given him a present to give her (i had flu so although I'd bought one, it had slipped my mind). I apologised to him umpteen times but he was angry and emotional because everyone else had given her a gift. He hid under the table at dinner time but eventually calmed down.

I'm not sure what to say to the teacher as I'm not sure it's needed as he really is just 6. Is this really unusual behaviour? I spoke to him about the touching etc and he was angry and said he didn't know why he done it, but I think more out of embarrassment than anything and that I had been told about it by his teacher. This morning he was difficult and basically just kept telling me to go away.

I'd say 90% of the time he's bright, funny, easy child (which I think is good!)

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 26/11/2023 13:57

When you say "support teacher", does he already have an ECHP @GettingOldWithoutStyle?

GettingOldWithoutStyle · 26/11/2023 14:01

No @SiouxsieSiouxStiletto I mean a TA. He doesn't have any additional support.

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 26/11/2023 19:42

I'm not sure what to say to the teacher as I'm not sure it's needed as he really is just 6. Is this really unusual behaviour?

I would listen to the Teacher. She will have lots of experience of many different 6 year olds and she's saying that your DS isn't coping and needs support. I would ask what support they are thinking of and ask them if their school SENCO would be able to assess him.

Abs I would say that yes, messing with himself, touching other DC when he's on the mat/carpet and the anger that he's shown over the present are not unheard of at 6 but it's definitely behaviour appropriate for a younger DC and will be becoming rarer at 6.

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 27/11/2023 08:13

Abs I wouldn't underestimate how much you are helpline him at home either. Hiding under the table because he's angry is something that NT DC do but a ND DC will be angry or have tantrums for much longer. Usually at 6 I would expect any outburst to be over after 5 minutes.

Eggspressions might help him to deal with how he's feeling Flowers

petroben · 27/11/2023 10:54

Dear ,
I'm sorry to hear about the challenges your son has been facing at school recently. It's not uncommon for children to exhibit occasional unusual behaviors, especially when they're navigating changes or feeling upset. It sounds like the departure of his support teacher impacted him emotionally.
It might be helpful to have an open and supportive conversation with his teacher to better understand their concerns and collaborate on strategies to provide the emotional support he may need. Also, consider discussing the recent changes at home and how it might have affected him. Sometimes, a collaborative approach between parents and teachers can contribute to a more comprehensive understanding of a child's needs.
Wishing you and your son the best,

petroben · 06/12/2023 15:30

petroben · 27/11/2023 10:54

Dear ,
I'm sorry to hear about the challenges your son has been facing at school recently. It's not uncommon for children to exhibit occasional unusual behaviors, especially when they're navigating changes or feeling upset. It sounds like the departure of his support teacher impacted him emotionally.
It might be helpful to have an open and supportive conversation with his teacher to better understand their concerns and collaborate on strategies to provide the emotional support he may need. Also, consider discussing the recent changes at home and how it might have affected him. Sometimes, a collaborative approach between parents and teachers can contribute to a more comprehensive understanding of a child's needs.
Wishing you and your son the best,

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