I'm a mum of 5, with very limited support. My second lg is 9. Her behaviour is out of control. I have very good boundries and routines in the house. But she does not accept any form of authority. Her behaviour is just escalating the older she's getting. She's always been defiant from a young age. I have tried so many different techniques but nothing seems to work long term with her. I have a pasta reward system for all my children and it works effectively for all my other children. She's the same at school, the school tend to bribe her to get her to do anything. I hate saying it but she hasn't had the easiest of times and has went through trauma due to my abusive ex and her dad not wanting to be involved. She's involved with cahms but they haven't really helped or done any work with her. I'm at my wits end because her behaviour is now starting to affect my other children. She's starting to become violent and speaks so nasty to myself and siblings. She throws things down the stairs and demands to get her own way, she has a very entitled attitude and basically tells me shes better than others and deserves to get what she wants. i have social services involved, they have no concerns about my parenting, they are involved due to myself having a history of mental health and my ex emotionally and physically abusing my children. i have thought about talking to them but im scared to as i havent had much positive expierence with social services, i dont know ehat to do or who to go to. all i know is that her behaviour is starting ti affect everyone and bringing my mood so low. i love my daughter but i dont like her alot of the time. she has another side to her thats so beautiful and loving. i just dont see this side alot anymore. any advice would be greatly appreaciated. tia x