9 week old unsettled all the time and I'm losing the plot

[Tafaa]

Just posting this as a bit of a vent really as I know it's all temporary and this too shall pass and all that, but I do feel like I'm losing the plot slightly with my 9 week old who just seems to cry all the time!

This is dd2 and dd1 was pretty much the same, if a bit worse, at this age and I think I'm just feeling especially frustrated as we seem to be surrounded by people with 'easy' babies and I know it's awful but I'm envious!

I feel like we can't go anywhere or do anything because of how she is. Any time we meet up with family everybody else's babies are just happy to sit in the pram meanwhile I'm desperately trying to keep my dd from waking up as I know the screaming will start again.

At a cafe with my mum yesterday and there must have been about 6 or 7 other people there with lovely content babies as I was pacing round the table with my screaming one while my food got cold and I could see people giving me the 'pity looks' which annoys me for some reason.

I'm not exaggerating when I say I literally never see anybody else having as difficult a time with their baby when I'm out and about during the day, and my logical brain knows that they're out there (probably going stir crazy at home like me 95% of the time) but it just feels like everyone else has easier babies than we do. Again, I know that's not the case but it just feels like it sometimes.

I hear a lot about 'colicky' babies but mostly that it's several hours a day usually in the evening that they're unsettled but that's not been my experience at all, dd is probably most content on an evening and sleeps in good chunks overnight but daytime is just a constant battle. It just feels like a repeat of my first baby when everybody said you never get two the same don't worry!

I think the only reason I'm coping a bit better this time around (not joking when I say I felt like chucking myself out a window a few times with first baby) is that I know that eventually things will settle down and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just have to get on with it until then!

No advice except I think I am you.

I have just have one baby who’s 5 months now. I don’t go out much as it’s not worth the hassle and her having an extreme meltdown happens pretty frequently when out and isn’t worth it. She’s been hard work since week 5 and it still is extremely difficult.

Ive paid for baby groups and she’s had a screaming hysterical meltdown as soon as I enter the room and have to leave. She cried to entire journey home.

I read that taking them on holiday at 4 months was the best time. It was the worst week of my life. I cried every single day and hated it. She was miserable. Refused to be in the pushchair, she refuses to nap anywhere but home.

i feel like everyone is wheeling around these lovely content babies to wherever they want and I’m sort of stuck.

The holiday at least has made me appreciate and enjoy being at home. I’ve barely taken her anywhere since then!

I’m trying to embrace staying in and appreciate it as I’ll miss it when I’m back at work 🫣

I went to meet my mum for lunch at a garden centre. I timed it perfectly so she’d had a long nap, woken naturally from it and had a feed.

She had a meltdown the minute I got her out the car and screamed the garden centre down.

We didn’t even make it into the restaurant.

I couldn’t stand the pity looks from everyone so was only there around 15 minutes before driving home!