4 year old with bad behaviour

[badger89]

Hiya all,

I have a four year old bad behaviour please help I don't know what to do with him.

Could you give us a few more details? What sorts of things is he doing, and how have you tried to manage it?

screams and shouts, not listening and hitting us. We try talking to him, time-out and taking thing away from him. He is no problem at school but when his home a firework goes off. It happened morning and night the most. His bed time 1900-1930 but can take till 2030 to get him to bed

It sounds like he is putting so much into being 'no problem' at school that he gets home and just explodes.

If he's four, has he just started school this past September? Does he need an outlet for the pent up emotions (and possibly pent up physical energy) – would a chance to go on the swings, bounce on a trampoline, run round the park like a wild thing for ten minutes help? Alternatively, does he need a very chill, low-demand evening (and possibly weekends) to let him recover from a week of lots of children and rules and new routines and experiences? He might need one and then the other, burst of physical activity, then home for a snack and a bit of screentime/stories/colouring.

I'd also consider if he's hungry, tired, or thirsty. My four year old is currently extra hungry, and quite a few strops have been solved by asking 'are you hungry?', getting a wailed 'yes!', and after some food, she's perfectly fine.

Thanks I will try some of this.