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9M baby old affectionate towards everyone but mum!

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Firsttimemama01 · 03/11/2023 22:58

Second time writing this thread as I git no responses and am just feeling super low.

Just for context I have a lovely 8 (nearly 9) MONTH old and am a stay at home mum. I spend every waking moment with her and we co sleep. She is incredibly active and it's commented on ALL the time. Always moving crawling grabbing standing. Will screech all day long unless on the move and never sits in the jumperoo etc. I cater to her every need I feel and am very affectionate as I love her to bits and can't resist showing her.

Recently the last couple of months I've noticed when she is scared of new ppl etc she will jump into my DH, MIL, DM, Dsis, SILs etc arms and snuggle in. She will push me away when I pick her up in general when we're ready to go home and try to jump into their arms and will hug and lay on their chest. I CAN NEVER get any affection from her and whilst my DH/DM reassure me she loves mama most, my MIL absolutely dances with joy when she doesn't want mama and always comments her kids were like velcro and snuggled her 24/7. It's really getting me down. I don't have anyone to talk to either because I guess they just don't understand and get fed up

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Richie23 · 04/11/2023 09:35

My little one is 8 months old and doesn’t enjoy cuddles at all. I’m the same as you and spend all day with him but he’s just not interested in being close physically. He doesn’t like being restrained I think. Even if he gets hurt or is just upset about something he still doesn’t want affection and will push away from me.
Are you breastfeeding? I tend to find that if he’s upset then he’d rather have a quick comforting feed than a cuddle, so I think he pushes away so he can see my boob.
Not the exact same situation but just wanted you to know you’re not the only mum who doesn’t get cuddles!

Firsttimemama01 · 04/11/2023 12:47

@Richie23 I'm not breastfeeding no :( she couldn't latch on as I didn't have the physical makeup for it! I exclusively pumped for her and she's fed through a bottle whether it be breastmilk or formula (when ny supply is low as she's weaned). I do feel abit better knowing I haven't done anything wrong but still hurts as she likes cuddles from others

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Richie23 · 04/11/2023 13:35

I think one thing I’ve learnt about babies is that just as you think you’ve figured them out then they suddenly change. One day they just suddenly do things they couldn’t do previously. Try not to take it personally - I imagine that at any moment she’ll suddenly become more affectionate towards you.

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