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HELP!! 5weeks of hell….Do I give the dummy back!

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EmKG1986 · 31/10/2023 02:52

Hi all,

Looking for some words of advice, experience or solidarity.

My little girl is 3y 2m old. 5.5 weeks ago we decided to move her into a “big girl bed”….. toddler bed, and take away her dummy.

She was sleeping very well, 10-11 hours no wake ups and no climbing ooor of her cot. But we needed the cot for her 10m old brother….and truthfully I kinda like she was too old for her dummy. My DH and D MIL especially thought so!!!!!

She was very excited about the prospect of a big girl bed, telling everyone happily that the dummy fairy was going to take her dummies away now that she is a big girl. So we thought it would all go well.

We had a few tricky nights falling to sleep. But she has managed to kick that habit quite well. But it’s the waking up that’s the issue. In 5.5 weeks, we’ve had 2 nights only where she hasn’t worked up at least 2 times. And she is often very very upset.

we have tried everything, offering a different comforter, teddy, teething toy to suck, weighted blanket, music, tonie box, night light, cuddles, strict sleep training, reward charts. Nothing is working. And it’s starting to affect everything. We are all exhausted. Catching all the viral illnesses and she is so emotional in the day cos she’s just knackered.

my gut feeling is she’s not emotionally ready to self settle in the middle of the night without it. She really tries, and even says “I’m trying mummy I’m trying”. The dummy has been such a comfort blanket for her.

but on the other hand I don’t want to go back on what I said. I have always held boundaries firm in our house and this has worked. And I don’t want to lose the progress she has made with not needing it for her naps or when she initially goes to sleep.

has anyone got any advice? Or experience of trhe same?

tired and despairing.

EmKG

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EmKG1986 · 02/11/2023 01:17

Hi all,

Looking for some words of advice, experience or solidarity.

My little girl is 3y 2m old. 5.5 weeks ago we decided to move her into a “big girl bed”….. toddler bed, and take away her dummy.

She was sleeping very well, 10-11 hours no wake ups and no climbing ooor of her cot. But we needed the cot for her 10m old brother….and truthfully I kinda like she was too old for her dummy. My DH and D MIL especially thought so!!!!!

She was very excited about the prospect of a big girl bed, telling everyone happily that the dummy fairy was going to take her dummies away now that she is a big girl. So we thought it would all go well.

We had a few tricky nights falling to sleep. But she has managed to kick that habit quite well. But it’s the waking up that’s the issue. In 5.5 weeks, we’ve had 2 nights only where she hasn’t worked up at least 2 times. And she is often very very upset.

we have tried everything, offering a different comforter, teddy, teething toy to suck, weighted blanket, music, tonie box, night light, cuddles, strict sleep training, reward charts. Nothing is working. And it’s starting to affect everything. We are all exhausted. Catching all the viral illnesses and she is so emotional in the day cos she’s just knackered.

my gut feeling is she’s not emotionally ready to self settle in the middle of the night without it. She really tries, and even says “I’m trying mummy I’m trying”. The dummy has been such a comfort blanket for her.

but on the other hand I don’t want to go back on what I said. I have always held boundaries firm in our house and this has worked. And I don’t want to lose the progress she has made with not needing it for her naps or when she initially goes to sleep.

has anyone got any advice? Or experience of trhe same?

tired and despairing.

EmKG

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 04/11/2023 17:40

I think it's too much at once moving bed and removing the dummy. I'd give her back for now and look at removing it again in a couple of months.

Just check she's warm enough as well. They can often be waking at this time of year because they are cold. My DD always slept better in the winter with a fleece blanket between the mattress and the sheet.

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