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Four year old out of control

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germoore · 27/10/2023 11:34

Anyone else's four year old a nightmare.
My DS has started school and since then his behaviour is out of control. He's always been highly strung and we've had our issues but now he's behaving like a spoiled brat and we have always set boundaries in our house and he doesn't get everything he wants. He's very involved in our lives and we love taking him to places and doing fun stuff. I love having friends and kids around the house as I have come from a big family but lately I can't bring anyone over. That sounds pathetic as usually I don't care and don't let him dictate this but lately I've stopped friends coming over as it's a nightmare. He's cheeky and hurts their kids and they are all lovely about it but you can tell he's pissing them off. He's so demanding and talking to me like I'm a piece of dirt and thrust me I discipline him. I've even stopped him from going to a friends birthday party and he said he didn't care about her he just wanted the party bag. It's like he doesn't care about anyone but himself. He treats his friends like dirt and we have no idea where it is coming from. It's embarrassing to be honest.
Sorry about the long post but I'm at my wits end and at the moment I'm not enjoying his company.

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 29/10/2023 21:05

How's he settling in at school @germoore? Has his Teacher mentioned any concerns?

And how much sleep is he getting?

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germoore · 29/10/2023 21:14

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 29/10/2023 21:05

How's he settling in at school @germoore? Has his Teacher mentioned any concerns?

And how much sleep is he getting?

Ah it took him awhile to settle in but his teacher is happy with him. She says he get easily frustrated if he doesn't get something right straight away that's the main thing. When I get home he gets angry. I tried taking him to the park to let him unwind but it doesn't help when I know he's tired I let him unwind in front of the tele with a nice snack.

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 29/10/2023 21:21

I think a snack and a drink in front of the TV is a good plan. Mine used to like a homemade milkshake made with milk banana and maybe sone berries.

I'd try putting him to bed a bit earlier this week too.

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germoore · 29/10/2023 21:25

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 29/10/2023 21:21

I think a snack and a drink in front of the TV is a good plan. Mine used to like a homemade milkshake made with milk banana and maybe sone berries.

I'd try putting him to bed a bit earlier this week too.

Thank you for getting back to me. Yeah but my fellas not a tv fan of tv but getting better with it. He's in bed between 6:30/7:00 every night wakes before six always an early riser

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 29/10/2023 21:40

It's good that he's getting roughly 12 hours at night.

If you're still having problems in a week or so, I'd ask the HV to do the Social & Emotional Ages & Stages.

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germoore · 29/10/2023 21:42

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 29/10/2023 21:40

It's good that he's getting roughly 12 hours at night.

If you're still having problems in a week or so, I'd ask the HV to do the Social & Emotional Ages & Stages.

Yes that's my next course of action. Thank you so much 😊

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Jadejack · 21/11/2023 22:04

Yes my eldest is almost 4 and it’s like the wars with her. She screams, throws tantrums, hits me and hits her younger sister who is almost 3.
I have 3 children under 4 so it’s extremely exhausting.
her behaviour can really put me on edge, I try telling her off but then it only makes me feel bad , I sometimes have to leave the room because it becomes so overwhelming at times especially because I have my hands full.
I only gave birth 6 months ago to my son so still feeling very hormonal not to mention having a hormonal coil fitted. It all can be hard work and stressful.
I have just started the naughty chair to see if that has any affect (been watching to much super nanny lol ) fingers crossed

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germoore · 22/11/2023 21:32

Jadejack · 21/11/2023 22:04

Yes my eldest is almost 4 and it’s like the wars with her. She screams, throws tantrums, hits me and hits her younger sister who is almost 3.
I have 3 children under 4 so it’s extremely exhausting.
her behaviour can really put me on edge, I try telling her off but then it only makes me feel bad , I sometimes have to leave the room because it becomes so overwhelming at times especially because I have my hands full.
I only gave birth 6 months ago to my son so still feeling very hormonal not to mention having a hormonal coil fitted. It all can be hard work and stressful.
I have just started the naughty chair to see if that has any affect (been watching to much super nanny lol ) fingers crossed

Hello.
I hope it works for you. I did try it and he didn't give a monkeys about. The saga continues. He's getting support from the early support team at school and it's helped a bit but we still have a long way to go.
It's hard and I only have one. I admire you having 3 under 5 huge respect.
Good luck with it all and I hope she settles soon as it's not easy living like your walking on egg shells around them x

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