My DS had a very strong reaction the day before his birthday because we did not book the party he expected. He told his new friends in his new school that he was going to organise one thing, but in fact it's another (we agreed on this last week, but last night we talked of option 2).
He was very aggressive towards me, with over the top punching and kicking but not hitting me. He even put a knife to my face and waved it around- it was a scary moment.
My dilemma is - we bought him a present he's been wanting since a long time. I bought him a couple of other small presents too. We are going ahead with the small celebration as his friends are already invited. But I am unsure if withholding the big present he's been wanting is a good consequence to learn from his behaviour and aggressive outburst.
My first reaction is yes, definitely, the big present should be returned back. I'd rather deal with an unpleasant day than a child, later adult, who has serious issues. But I'm now unsure after doing an Internet search.
He's doing so well at his new school. His teachers are impressed and so are we. He's a great kid, but sometimes loses his temper. He did apologise and realise that he did wrong. And he was surprised after he came to his senses of his agressive reaction.
Thank you