Nearly Two Week Old Refusing To Be Put Down

[Phoenixwings1989]

Hello,

My nearly two week old is refusing to be put down in her bassinet downstairs during the day. At night it is hit and miss whether she'll lie in her crib. I think she may have reflux and we've tried elevating it a little but it hasn't helped any.

Has anyone else experienced this? Did you make any additional purchases that helped your little one settle and enjoy being separate from you for a bit?

No additional purchases helped our DS unfortunately, but I would try a big stretchy wrap so that you can do things like get yourself some lunch.

Have you tried using a T-shirt that DH/DP has worn as the sheet in the mattress? This will give the bassinet a reassuring smell.

Have you tried gently warming it up too before you put LO in?

No 2 week old wants to be put down. The rare baby will but mostly it’s a myth that you can put them down when they are sleeping and potter around the house. Contact naps are the way forward for quite some time. To make things easier use a sling when baby is sleeping around the house. Your baby’s is 100% normal, nothing is wrong

Baby sounds totally normal, and like others have said, no extra things will help really. Babies aren’t meant to be away from us - they’re programmed to be scared when they’re placed down away from us. It’s a survival thing.
As a first time mum who spent the majority of the first weeks of my babies life just not enjoying it and trying everything to get baby to sleep on their own, please don’t do the same as me. I regret wasting so much time worrying or trying to get my baby to do things he’s not designed to do. He now sleeps so so well in his crib and he’s 7 months old, I promise you your baby will eventually get there. But I wish wish wish I had spent more of those early weeks just soaking up the time with my baby and enjoying having him nap on me. If you can get a sling then that will really help as you’ll be able to do things around the house at the same time.
Please take any pressure off yourself because it’s not anything that you’re doing wrong or haven’t bought etc. It’s just your baby needing the closeness to you. And all too soon, like literally in a matter of months, baby will start to get more independent.

@SiouxsieSiouxStiletto I tried various wraps with my first born and just ended up in a royal tizz as I found them complicated to put on and I didn't feel 100% safe putting her in one as she was small. DD2 is even smaller so I'm sure I'd be just as concerned for her safety as I was with DD1.

We've not tried putting a worn t shirt in the bassinet yet but it's something to consider. We have tried warming it up a little before she goes on but it doesn't seem to help much.

@NewBabyGirl2020 I have an impossible time with slings. I find them really fiddly but have no doubt one would make a huge difference. I bought various ones for DD1 but could never work them out.

@Richie23 DD1 was the same and I remember feeling so panicked and unnerved by it. She was the first baby I came across who wanted to be stuck with me literally everyday which was partially down to why I developed postnatal depression - not because I didn't enjoy having her in my arms but because I thought it wasn't normal for her to sleep/lie anywhere else.