Nearly 2 yro DD will not take me seriously when telling her off.

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I don't know what to do with my DD when it comes to discipline.

My DS now 4 was always very responsive to a cross tone of voice or the ole reliable- or seems not so reliable- naughty step. My DD on the other hand seems to think I'm the funniest thing ever when I'm telling her off. Whenever I put her on the naughty step, she always finds a way to have fun - singing songs, shouting and laughing at the top of her voice, jumping up and down, whatever... it's always fun!

Some part of me finds it endearing as she really is very good humured, but she has to learn when enough is enough. How do I get her to take me seriously?

I have no answers, but just to let you know my ds is the same, everything is a laugh. I am begining to think that he found my good humour when i lot it!!!!!

me too! my 23 month old is the same, seems oblivious unless I really get wildly cross eg after what seemed like a 20 min session of naughtiness followed by the the naughty step follwed by repeated naughtiness..... (you probably know the rest)
Me - "are you going to be a good girl now?"
her (thinks about it) - "no, not yet"

I think that to them being naughty is fun and mummy's angry face is funny.
can you distract until they are old enough to really understand what being naughty is?

I agree ratbunny, think it's just part of the deal.
She loves it when I have to chase after her too. I've tried not chsing after her but she calls my bluff and I'm not sure where (if?) she would stop! Distraction's good but doesn't always work and it's hard to always be calm enough especially when suffering from sleep deprivation!

I'm in teh same boat.

DD3 just laughs and repeats the bad behaviour to see me do whatever it is that makes her laugh again.

DP can shout quite abruptly at her so that it makes her physically jump - that seems to work - but is a bit cruel in my mind - but better than smacking I think.

ds is 14 mo, and is already doing this. watching me and giggling while doing soemthing naughty. yesterday he weed on the carpet, looked at my face, stamped in it then ran away. he thought it was the funniest thing ever.

how can you distract from that fgs! So I tend not to make a big deal unless it's something serious.
can't wait til hes a 'proper' toddler...

I have never told my 22 month old off

whats the point? [genuinely mildly confused]

ratbunny - he is 14 months old

he has no concept of naughty or not naughty

honenid - no I know, that is my point.

Again, no solutions, but mine's just the same.

She sometimes actually squeals with delight and hops from foot to foot clapping her hands in glee if I'm cross . I've just stopped being cross, ever. It achieves nothing at the moment. We do Calm Explaining, and consequences. That doesn't achieve much either, but at least I'm not being laughed at!!!

The worst (best?) thing she does is 'fake serious nodding'. I'll be saying in Calm, Serious Voice that "we do not hit the dog with toys and now mummy is going to take the toy away" and she puts on the fakest serious expression ever, puts her head on one side and nods in time to my emphasis, like some stuffy political interviewer listening to a long, boring answer. It's very hard not to laugh.

Enid - I suppose it depends what you mean by "telling off".

she is never naughty

she does things that a toddler does

I do say things like 'stroke the cat gently' or 'no thats dd2's toy'

if she doesnt do it I take the toy off her or remove the cat

no telling off/crossness required

Mine is the same. She's 21 months old and finds most things hilarious. She does know when she is doing something wrong though, as she jumps out of her skin when I simply say her name. I am heavily pregnant and must admit my coping strategies are not very strong right now. I put her in the corner and through perseverance she has started staying there. However some of it is lip service. And then I hear her telling her big sister to go in teh corner, she's being naughty etc.

My biggest failing is that she is so cheeky looking that when she does these things, she says such outrageous things that I have to use every ounce of strength not to laugh myself - which is much worse than doing nothing at all.

Will watch this thread with interest.

Tbh she doesn't have to, at that age. You are big and strong and clever enough to stop her from doing anything she really shouldn't do, quite regardless of her reaction. Just get on with doing it, stop her from running away, keep her on reins if you have to, remove anything from her that she's not to have, just do it calmly and ignore her reaction. Eventually she will get to the rebellious stage, but even then you can just carry on ensuring that your will gets done, eventually she will get the idea.

my 22 month old is annoying (eg has a thing about going in her car seat/high chair (even though it is a normal chair with no straps ) but I would not classify that as NAUGHTY - she would scribble on stuff with felt pens if she could but I just dont let her have felt pens - job done.

Yes, I know toddlers get annoyed and frustrated easily because they want to do something and can't (frustrates me too tbh), but when she is doing something like hitting or bitting her brother just because he is in close proximity, then yes, I do think this is naughty behaviour!
My DS never acted like this, but I guess he didn't have any siblings at that age...prehaps it's just her way of getting a reacion if nothing else is going on.
I feel so exhausted at the moment and sometimes things seem to be more of a battle then they should be. I think I'll just perservere and hopefully she'll soon learn.

yep, ds went through a stage where he just laughed whenever he was told off (by "told off" I mean ds hits cat/mummy explains with cross face and eye contact that this is not acceptable/ds hits cat again/mummy lifts and sits on thinking step and says "you may not hit the cat, please sit quietly and think about it" or something!) .... he would just sit there and laugh, or laugh at my cross face. This went on for about 2 months, we eventually got through it with perseverance - when he laughed I stood up and calmly walked away, no response. He hated/hates being removed and left by himself, so eventually got to understand that whatever it was he'd done would end up with him being asked to sit down and think about it by himself.
Incidentally his nursery just didn¡t get it - they rang me several times in desperation to say that he'd just laugh at them, but I gathered they would try and reason with him or keep talking, which made him think they weren't serious. As soon as they followed what we did at home things changed.

But yes, tis a phase!

Thanks for the advise...will def try going along those lines (giving no response). Somtimes us Mum's need a little reasurrance too!