Stopping 4 year old biting at school

[ConfusedFox]

Hello,
DC started reception this year. Enjoying it but has bitten on 2 occasions. Provoked in the sense of pushed/shouted at by other child. It has come out of the blue and I am very concerned. We have talked about not biting, I have been very firm, keep repeating to find a grown up if angry etc. Has anyone been through this? Mortified and worried it will continue.
Thank you

Bump please with any experience/advice

No other parents of 4 year olf biters out there?

Honestly I'd come down on this like a ton of bricks. He's 4 that is far too old.

Did the Teacher tell you he was pushed and provoked, if so, what are they doing about the child who is provoking?

How is he apart from this at school? Does the Teacher have any other concerns?

Thanks both. Seems happy and engaged. I think even though provoked a bite is not an okay response. I'm worried it will now become a 'thing'. I was very firm with him and came up with aome strategies of what to do when angry but in heat of moment I am worried.

Helloo.. so my daughter has never been a biter even as a toddler she just never did it.. she started school in September too and 3 weeks in.. she bit someone.. I was absolutely mortified.. turned out a little girl snatched a toy from her.. but not excuse for biting. That night she came down with a sickness bug
.. it hasn't happened again but honestly the following weeks after I was so worried she would get into the habit of biting.. but she didnt do it again and it seemed to be a blip. Just keep reinforcing no biting.. hopefully it's just a blip too.. PS.. ignore the unhelpful reply your have above!!

Thank you @Dbrea I appreciate that snd relieved it's not just me. Good to know re illness. It was the week of flu spray but I may be clutching at straws. I do definitely think tiredness plays a factor.

Ours isn’t really a biter but does hit, we worked with a behavioral therapist and psychologist (not that you need to, but it was “professional advice”). Advice was to wait until child is calm and talk about different choices every time the bad behavior happens and what feeling they were having: “it’s very unfair when we’re pushed. It sounds like you were really angry and maybe scared. Hurting people is not an acceptable choice and I expect you to make a different one next time. What other choices can you make?” Rinse and repeat. You can go down the ton of bricks route and make them feel bad, shame us very effective as our therapist said, but it doesn’t actually give the child any skills to navigate big feelings any better the next time. He was also very clear that at that age, what happens at school should be dealt with there. At home is way too long after and you’re too far removed to know what actually happened.

I will also say, our child’s behavioral issues seemed to be 95% the school setting, we moved her and they disappeared almost overnight. The teachers at the old school were inexperienced and responding to our daughters frustration badly and the class was extremely chaotic because of poor classroom management skills. Therapist also said at that age it’s down to the adults to respond to guide the kids.

Also, it’s not good behavior for 4yos to hit or bite, but it’s also really common and not a sign of additional needs on its own.