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Does my baby know I love her/feel comforted by me?

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Firsttimemama01 · 02/10/2023 22:43

Okay here goes, I know I'm going to feel silly after posting this but it's on my mind. I have a 7M old DD. Absolutely lovely happy giggly little baby but has severe stranger anxiety to the point she cries herself into oblivion if we have visitors or are over at someone news house e.g. my auntys/grandma's house. She was screaming when my granny who I don't see often said hello and no amount of cuddles made her feel better and I've realised often when she's upset a cuddle and kiss and love doesn't get her to stop crying? My brother was with us and she reached out for him, she continued crying but still didn't want me. I see other babies curl into mum when upset or scared, she just cries and looks for her dad, my brother and sister and my mum (all people she's close to). I don't get it. I'm a very loving affectionate mum I feel, but she's not very attached to me in that way and I wonder if I have done something wrong. I play with her all day and put aside all housework etc and am a SAHM.

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ItalianMUM89 · 03/10/2023 21:49

Don't worry please..it is most probably a phases.. when my LO was 1 year old he user for a while to look for comfort for my mum or my MIL(I suffered a lot for it) but than just few months later it was me he was looking for comfort..maybe next month it will be the dad. So please don't worry you are her mum and she knows she is loved!

Firsttimemama01 · 04/10/2023 01:14

@ItalianMUM89 thank you so much, was just feeling so bad and needed the reassurance. I just want her to know I'm here for her and to be her person of comfort and hope I'm not doing anything wrong

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Becky000999 · 04/10/2023 11:07

It’s okay hang in there I’m sure you’re doing a great job . My now 18 month old when she was around 7months she was exactly the same with her dad ! He was around alot by the way he wasn’t working at the time he was in the middle of looking for one so he was around quite a lot and now she’s just attached to him . Baby is still so young so I think just a phase to be honest some babies are so fussy aha

Fmlgirl · 06/10/2023 23:01

I have a 4 month old. He doesn’t actually cry often but when he does, I don’t feel it’s anything I do that comforts him if that makes sense. I hold him and rub his head and none of that makes him feel better. Just elimination tactics and it’s usually either feeding, needing a nap or nappy change. I feel your pain but also spoke to this with my best friend who has 3 kids and she says it’s a myth that a lot of babies want to be in that traditional cradle position when crying. That made me feel a bit better. I think when they get older they will look for us/want us more.

Firsttimemama01 · 11/10/2023 21:49

Thank you both. We've all been super ill and sick with the worst bug but I wanted to come on here and say thanks for the comforting words. She has shown me how much she needed only me whilst she was poorly, so I'm confident when she plays with others over me it's because she is secure and knows mummy is there ❤️

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Daisy155 · 02/11/2024 12:07

My son was like this until he was 3 and now he is almost 8 he is my shadow, he never ever leaves my side ❤️

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