Since starting nursery my 1 year old seems to hate me

[LittleCheese]

Has anyone else experienced this or does any one please have some advice.
My dd started nursery about a month ago when I went back to work. She absolutaly loves it, has never cried when I left her has never cried whilst there and just generally has lots of fun.
She stays at my parents on a weekend and again she is like an angel, they discribe her as the "perfect child", and she is also wonderfully happy when her dad has her or when me and dh are with her together.
However when it is me and dd on our own she is horrible. she constantly cries (without tears) then puts her arms up to be picked up and cuddled, then wriggles to get off my knee, then cries because I have put her down.
I am so confused and on occasion have cried as I just dont know what to do with her, I love her so much and feel really rejected as she only behaves like this with me.
Please tell me there is some normal healthy reason for this.

she doesn't hate you!

she can do this with you because you are her mum and she is secure enough in your love to know she can test boundaries

she may be a wee but unsettled after starting nursery but it will pass - keep on cuddling and don;t take it to heart

Hi!
She is obviously having a go at you for leaving her at nursery, my DD (13mo now) has had tantrums at me for leaving her with nanny (since 10mo). Just screaming in the evenings and nights and nothing seems to help except bfeeding. She doesn't do this to anyone else but me, and more if she is not well, like recently with a cold, eczema etc. I also have felt like crying as it's quite exhausting, going to work fulltime, not enough sleep and screaming...
She doesn't hate you, she just doesn't understand why you are not with her all the time. I would not leave her during the weekends, go to see your parents together, try to spend quality time with her when you can, find an activity what she really likes (mine loves her new Legos and looking at her baby books) and share it with her.
It'll get better!

My ds (1) is going through the same at the mo and he doesnt go to nursery! Its a phase I think and deffinately not because shes going to nursery!

she sounds a bit overtired to me. The crying without tears thing and the wanting to be picked up then put down thing just sound like she is a bit overwhelmed and needs to be able to let off steam - it's clearly you that she really relaxes with and doesn't feel the need to put on any particular behaviour.

I agree with changing things a little at the moment, don't leave her with her grandparents, go together if you need to, or just have family time together. Even though she clearly enjoys being with her GP's it's still stimulation in a way that being home, isn't. I think nursery is enough for her right now and to cut down on everything else.

yup, keep cuddling her even though she might push you away. don't take it personally. she's got lots to adjust to and you're the one person she can totally relax with. ride this out, with lots of attention.

Thanks for all the advice, ill definately try keeping her home at the weekend for a while and see if this helps. I have also felt one of her molars on the verge of coming through this morning so im sure that isnt helping things

hi littlecheese - i did a similar thread to this fairly recently as my dd was being a bit weird with me after starting at nursery. her behaviour was a bit like your dd in some ways, and it went on for about a month, she was teething and had a few awful colds too. but things are better with her now, she is pretty much back to normal so i think it was just a bit of an unsettling time for her and now she's used to the routine she's happier again. also, i found what helped a fair bit was asking her dad to drop her off in the mornings . hope it improves...