Wasn't really sure what to title this post but DH and I are at our wits end.
DD is 8, just started year 3. She is kind, bright and capable.
She goes into school ok and we have never had any negative comments from teachers in regards to behaviour.
However, at home, out side of school she refuses to engage in anything that takes effort. Homework - which is just spellings, reading and a bit of maths revision is a nightmare.
And it's not just school stuff... anything that requires her to do as she's told or where she might "learn" something is just impossible.
We have had to stop swimming lessons because she refused to get in the pool anymore.
Tried to reach her to ride a bike over the summer, and she would refuse to get on it. We just about managed to get her to the point of actually riding unsupported but now refuses to ride at all.
If she brings home a school book- that she has picked, she refuses to read it. And will only read picture books with minimal writing. She won't even let us read longer chapter books TO her.
She brings home a fact book about dinosaurs so we try an engage with her about dinosaurs and she gets angry because we are trying to " teach" her.... we aren't we are just having a conversation about something she might have an interest in!
She used to do Lego club, but didn't like that she had to build what the group leader was getting them all to build. She just wanted to do her own thing.
She has plenty of time to do her "own" thing at home but rarely does.
Homework is such a battle and we really don't know how to move forward and stop the arguments and her temper tantrums.
She talks to us like rubbish, we have tried punishment, incentives, rewards etc and nothing encourages her to just get on with it!
This has been going on since year 1 and is getting worse, and I dread to think how bad it will get when she actually has to start doing more formal homework!
How do we get her to engage???