My dd is 6 (7 in November) and I need some guidance on whether this is normal or she needs something more in terms of support and professional help.
she has always been a strong willed and feisty girl and when she was younger it came across positively and we saw the good elements of that. However, in recent couple of years she has become more angry (at almost everything) and everything is “unfair”. She then gets herself into this very negative cycle of being angry and unhappy and having an argument with us and her sister. At home we’ve always joked (me and my husband) that she’s the boss and runs us around. But at school we’ve been told she’s almost silent the whole day, doesn’t participate in class, often day dreaming and struggling to finish her work in the set time. they said they’re not concerned yet and want to just keep monitoring her which in my opinion is not great as there should be a more hands on practical action on how to support her.
anyway, she’s recently been having more and bigger outbursts over things such as not having her turn, or not getting something she wanted etc. we are now a bit concerned whether she needs something more to help her, such as seeing a psychiatrist.
as a side note for context, she has this strange facial tick that she does with her face (eye blinking, nose twitching) which she’s had for about a year and have taken her to doctors who have just said she’ll grow out of it. I don’t know if that’s related to anything such her feeling upset/stressed etc.
her and her sister argue ALOT. They are both to blame 50/50 as neither is helpful in the arguments, but she has confided in me before about how she doesn’t want to argue so much with her older sister (9) and wants to know how to stop. We’ve spoke. To her older sister about finding more appropriate responses to issues rather than just argue about it. Works sometimes but not always.
anyway, really need some guidance. What do we do? How can we support her so that she is happier in herself and not always cross with life.