Can I add this to Parenting as I think it's terribly important to make anyone out there who is worried?

[Scattybird]

Going through a recent behaviour change - Can I just say that it's a phase. They all go through them, but we, as Mums get worried about it.

Never before has the knowledge for Mums who worry about this stuff been more available.

You have probably read loads of stuff etc and yes of course you have to worry, but it really is a phase. Talking to a wise old woman (80)recently whilst worried about my DS put it all in perspective. She said, 'when mine were little we had all of this, but people didn't analyse things like they do now. The children were fine, it's a phase'. I do actually believe this. She also added that 'you haven't invented the wheel you know' - what could I say?

so true, so true.

I think the more info we have, the worse the worry becomes!

that neither did she.

True, but from her perspective, she honestly didn't think that I was worrying about the right things. From my perspective and experience - she is actually right.

Unfortunately, mine seem to lurch from phase to phase!

and I would not have been so rude, if you get to 80 and you can still comment on todays 'goings on' then you have earned the right to be a bit rude surely.

When I am old I will state what I think and be a total old cantankerous woman too.

When I am old, I will wear purple
With a red hat that doesn't go

Sorry, OT, but it's kind of (the only) advantage of being old- you get to tell everyone else what you think!

I know I am changing the topic but I think such sage old advice is fine if there is actually nothing wrong with your child but this is not always the case. My DS has serious developmental delays but I was told by several people with a strong resemblance to your 80 year old that 'There is nothing wrong, he will be fine, they are all different' They still say that now and I know they don't mean it in a nasty way but maybe their life experience is not so wide as they suppose.

I agree with moira, sometimes we can over analyse things but I think that's much better than ignoring everything. Saying that the children were fine in those days, doesn't actually mean that the children were fine, it can just mean they didn't know what to make of it and things were ignored.
And if the information is out there today we should use it to our childrens advantage. I think nowadays we are much more self aware and there has been a lot of reasearch done to help us understand our children better-which wasn't available then.

I've found that my, not quite so old but equally 'wise', mother just has a very selective memory and although she may claim to have never been phased by a phase she is just forgetting, as we all do, when the difficulty has passed.

hindsight is 20-20, as you know.